My boyfriend and I really need to go through couples counseling but our insurance dont cover it and we dont have the extra money because were currently working on moving. I dont know what to do because we have talks about our issues among ourselves plently of times and realize and accept what the problem is...and tried to work on it plently of times but failed (still want to remain together) .... what do we do?
2006-07-24 19:54:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If we were incompatible, we would have already been broken up. The best relationships comes from those who are the oppisite of eachother. His strengths are my weaknesses and my weaknesses are his strengths so ofcourse we wanna make this work! Well obviously try anything.
2006-07-24 20:00:30 · update #1
if your in the u.k. you can have free counselling , modify tell me where you are ??!
2006-07-24 20:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by j.j. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Focus and pray before you speak about the little things...that are what turn into the big things...that later blow out of proportion and make things go wrong. Also think before you say something...(I know you just want to just like blow up in the moment) really take the time to focus on what is being said...and pretty much you know the answer of what you are going to say...therefore...stop and don't answer the usual way think of something less sarcastic and more neutral. Then go back and begin to touch the subject matter in a more calm and relaxed way....wait for the right mood.
Just try to relax if it's met to be you must work at it...everything that is good takes a sincere sacrifice from both parts. Good luck! Relax and enjoy life is indeed too short to trip over things that are going to exist after you die. Think about it what if either of you got hit by a car and died today...? How would that make you feel...? Think really deeply about this scenerio...the answer is in your heart!
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2016-02-11 11:57:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there must be a local voluntary agency that will provide counselling either on a means tested or possibly even free basis - speak to your counsellor about it maybe s/he could suggest someone. Alternatively, contact you local college who might be able to recommend some "just qualified students" who maybe willing to help you just for the experience. Good Luck.
2006-07-24 20:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that you have both worked out what the problem is - that's a good start! However, you seem at a loss as to what to do about it? Why don't you share the problem with us & we'll see what help/advice we can give you?
2006-07-27 06:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by devildriver53 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read Mars & Venus on date - Dr John Gray
2006-07-24 20:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by Zee99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are there no charity organisations in your area? Try a helpline thats relevant to your problem and see if they can suggest anything.
2006-07-24 20:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try relate as far as i am aware you do not have to married to use their services any more i also believe any payment is made on a basis of ability to pay
good luck
2006-07-24 20:38:34 · answer #8 · answered by mumoftheyear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a counselor that works based on your income a sliding scale.
2006-07-24 19:58:09 · answer #9 · answered by starla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like you are incompatible with each other.
you may need to accept that you shouldnt be with each other.
2006-07-24 19:58:39 · answer #10 · answered by The Drunken Fool 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋