Are you in your 20s?

Question

What makes you feel old and what makes you feel young? What is the most difficult thing you have in your life ? Kids ? Work? School? relationships ? anything ..

Answer 1

I am not in my 20's, but I once was... if you don't want to read the ramblings of a 53 year old, just kindly skip over my answer.
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I felt older then at times than I do now. I had 2 small children and sometimes felt overwhelmed as I was not sure of myself - was I handling things right? giving them the proper foods? spoiling them too much - not enough? would they grow up normal and well adjusted, or would I screw them up somehow? I now know I did a fabulous job despite all the mistakes - and there were many - and now have 3 wonderful grandsons with whom I am relaxed with and can enjoy fully (and no, they do not get away with murder - the parents make the rules and I follow them willingly - hence no manipulation and trying to sneak something in - and no playing granny against parents either).
Work... I wanted to have the perfect job, and was stressed that I could not get what I really wanted plus have children to raise. back then, employers were not always so understanding about families. I had to let a great job go as the owner would not allow me to stay home with a sick child. I chose the child and got a lesser paying job. Now, I think about what I really wanted to do but never took the chance on... I wanted to be an art teacher but needed a degree, and did not get one until 5 years ago. In order to be a teacher I have to do an internship series and have no time with my current position (at a university). It is a good job, pay is okay and hours are fine, but I really feel I let a dream slip away from me while life went by. I suppose I could still teach if I left my job and got a different one, but it is difficult to do so after so many years there. That is a difference between 20 and 53 - at 20 you still have a chance to make those changes in career without it affecting so much - now I would lose my savings plan which is excellent, and other great benefits after more than 10 years. How many schools would hire a woman in her 50's as a teacher, when a young person with the same qualifications is asking for that same job? They would not consider that I have energy and spunk, even though that is a stereotype that I would be slower and not as "with it".
School - I actually am glad I went to college in my late 40's. There was no urge to party, I worked extremely hard at my studies as I was paying for it, my mind was sharper and not as distracted as I was married more than 25 years by then - sex was not a focal point - except for at home. I made a great deal of friends of all ages, got involved in study groups and projects, and graduated on the high honors and deans list. (so did my daughter in her mid 20's, so age is not always a factor on that one). In the early 70's, women were not taken as seriously as a whole though, so I think that made a difference to me.
Relationships: When in my 20's, my hubby and I thought every little thing that happened was either the most wonderful or the most devastating in our marriage. we worried about our relationship, thought it was over several times, i cried and he got furious, and we blew things out of proportion. Looking back, the things that were so important then were just silly things that meant nothing in the long run, yet we almost left each other a few times over those meaningless things - the saying about more couples leaving over dumb stuff like toilet seats, toothpaste caps, and casseroles is true - unless you get smart and see it does not matter as much as your love and compassion for one another. as to the physical back then, we made love as much as possible, it was as if there was no tomorrow. now it is quality over quantity and we are so much more relaxed - we know each other as well as we would know ourselves. it is a natural flow and much more enjoyable and refreshing.
The most difficult thing I have in my life is knowing that I can not be here with my children and grandchildren forever. I want to watch them grow and mature, would love to spend time with them and do all the things that my inner self yearns to do. I feel as if I still am that 20 year old. (Yes I do climb trees still with the kids, and have a ball with them, but I am a bit slower in doing it, and that reminds me that my body is getting a bit older all the time). I did not think of this type of thing when I was 20. I did however have a strange thing happen while holding my newborn child in the hospital - each of them actually - I envisioned them growing up and going out into the world on their own, I saw their life in my mind, and I wept for some reason each time. I did not understand it then, but I do now. It is because I will not be able to go with them and be young again like I yearn to do, I think that is why I cried - but now I just smile and know that they will be fine no matter what they do in life, no matter how many mistakes they make, and someday they will be in my shoes, smiling and knowing how special it all is no matter what your current age is.
Enjoy your life to the fullest, and someday you will look back and feel as if you did the best you could so far but that you have a very long way to go until you decide to rest - and that today you still feel as young as you did 30 - or 50 - years ago.
The best thing is seeing your family and feeling so proud that they turned out so well - not talking monetary but talking inner compassion and caring for others, it is a good feeling to know that they love life as much as I do.
Okay, you can now go back to your regular program, enjoy the 20's!

Answer 2

It was a little exciting turning 20, however that was in 2000 and now it's gotten a little depressing.

I have 2 kids, a 6 years career and thinning hair. My bones ache when it rains and I get tired and look forward to a nap around 3pm.

I am still able to run after a 3 year old and take care of a 6 month old, however I know I cannot do this in the next 10 years.

I graduated from high school in 1998... so my 10 year reunion will be in less than 2 years. Damn, it's been a long time.

Well I have less than 4 years until I turn 30, so lets see what else will start to malfunction.... vision ?

Overall, I am happy to get older- however, I know how my dads feels now.

Answer 3

im 27 everything i do makes me feel young. Currently there is no difficulty in my life. What makes me feel old is when I go to a video store and a kid who is like 5 is renting An American Tale or some kids movie that i watched as a kid. That makes me feel old. The most difficult thing Iv had in my life was debt but now i have been debt free for over 3 years.

Answer 4

I'm in my 20's times 2. What makes me feel old. Feeling like I'm an old lady answering a 20 year old's question - remembering how much fun I had back then. What makes me feel young. My kid's friends coming to me to talk and telling me that they can't talk to their parents about issues in their lives because their parents think like old folks. What is the most difficult thing in my life? Right now its just trying to shuffle a bunch of kids around our local university who are attending dance camp - I have two attending the camp. Their a wonderful bunch of kids but have far too much energy - something else that makes me feel old. I remember when I could dance all day and night.

Answer 5

Yup. Still party and feel young, have a g/f. Can't get high credit score. No kids, worked since 15, still go to school, have a good relationship. Only feel old when 16 year olds get hired where I work.

Answer 6

25. I feel old when I think of others having kids and getting married my age. I feel young when I flirt and act single. What is difficult in my life is the concept of paying bills, working and making it on my own.

Answer 7

I'm 27.
what makes me feel old? Remembering back when I thought thirty was old. Really. In my experience one of the hardest things in life are relationships. I have had a very bad relationship, but now am in a better one. There is so much learning to do. You never know it all in a relationship....things and life changes and you have to change and adjust to it. Kids are hard too, but they are a blessing. Watching your children grow is one of the most rewarding things in life. Not only grow bigger but watching their minds and personalities grow.

Answer 8

27, 1-2yr old daughter & 1 son on the way, 40+ work weeks, full time law school student, Married 4 yrs dating 10yrs, most difficult thing in my life is my boss(bastard drives me nuts, thinks that he knows everything but he is lost when it comes to performing any real work!) Martial arts makes me feel young (3 black belts) & younger students in my law classes make me feel old!

Answer 9

The most difficult thing? Nothing, really. Money, i guess. Im in my late 20's and no kids yet. In another 2 months we're gonna start. But im not ready.

Answer 10

I'm 24, and the hardest part is trying to convince my mother that I'm not a teenager anymore. You'd think she'd get it by now...

I do still feel pretty young, though, because I'm not getting married or having kids any time soon. I'm fine with that, but it's almost like I don't really feel like an adult yet, you know?

Answer 11

I am 23 the most diffcult things I have right now is a father who has been sick for the past 8 years and no mother she died 8 years ago. I am pregnant my fiance dumped me a month ago so I am doing this pregnancy on my own. I feel like my church doesnt support me because I am unwed and pregnant. So thats all with me. Boy I am messed up hehe.