I made the mistake of making out with my closest guyfriend a few months ago. I told him I wanted to stay just friends, but everytime we met after that he'd try to kiss me! I admit that I let him a couple of times(I did like him), but then I made up my mind, we had a serious talk, and since he still wouldn't listen I decided to stop hanging out for a while untill he cools down. Today I saw him after 3 months(!!!), hoping we could just hang out like old times, but he tried coming on to me again. I told him he's making me uncomfortable because I don't like having to turn him down everytime. He said he can't help how he feels, and if I really don't want it I should stop talking to him all together!! Now I don't wanna do that!! I'm so upset..I don't wanna lose a good friend. Is there another solution to this situation?? Please!!
2006-07-24 19:19:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have, as they say, "let the genie out of the bottle." Your friend isn't willing or able to go back to just thinking of you as a friend. He knows himself well enough to even tell you that if you don't want his attention, then you should stop talking to him altogether. He has given you the best advice you can get in this situation.
If you are unwilling to take this relationship to a more romantic level, then you are going to have to drop him as a friend. It is a hard lesson, but perhaps you will act more cautiously if you are ever in a similar situation again.
2006-07-24 19:45:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listennnn.... Can i be real with you? I can... Ok. You friend is either really into you or just a real horn dog. If you friend is just looking for some action and you don't want to do that. Then find him a new chick to hit on. Find him a chick he can possible get some kind of play from, but not a lose type of chick (a hoe). But if he is truly and honestly into you, then you are going to have to go a different way. I would suggest to give him a shot, you said you liked him, why? Why did you like him? Did those feelings for him change or are you just holding them back because you don't think it will work? If you are truly over him then sit him down and tell him that the kiss was a mistake (be gently but firm). Tell him you don't want to lose him as a friend and if you mean anything to him he will stop hitting on you. This holds a two fold purpose if he cares he'll stop and if he doesn't stop he isn't a real friend. If he's not a real friend no need to keep him around, no matter how much of a bond you had.
2006-07-25 02:34:56 · answer #2 · answered by DuvalKing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I hate to say this, but since you have made out with your friend, nothing will stay the same. Your friend you made out with wants to be your boyfriend. You wouldn't have made out with him, if you didn't have feelings of some sort for him. I know that passion can be a dangerous thing somtimes. The only way to stop being made passes at, is to stop seeing him. If you don't, he'll think that he has a chance to be with you. Sorry, but some men take passion as love making. You have your work cut out for you, if you still want to keep him as just friends.
2006-07-25 02:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by ShSe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men dont respond to words. They respond to action. Its how your expression in your face lets them know that you're serious and straight about the whole thing. Voice tone and eye contact is important too. Let him know that if he keeps doing that he will lose you. You gotta be tough and play the game! If you're willing to risk losing him..i tell you from my exprience someone new and nice and an even better friend came into my life.
2006-07-25 02:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by gucciRUSH 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him be for a while honey. He needs time to cool down. Who knows maybe you will discover that you really do like him, either way you both need time and space to heal this, obviously 3 months wasn't enough for either of you.
2006-07-25 02:25:24 · answer #5 · answered by Gynolotrimena Lubriderma-Smith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO U KNOW THAT SOMETIMES GOOD FREINDS END OP 2GETHER! WHY WONT U GIVE IT A CHANCE..IF NOT THEN IF HES A REAL FRIEND HE WOULD OF BACKED OFF WHEN U TOLD HIM HE NEEDED TO CHILL OUT! HES JUST BIENG STUPID N HE NEEDS TO UNDERSTAND! GURL IF HE DOESNT WANT TO UNDERSTAND U THEM JUST DONT TALK TO HIM CUZ HE AINT WORTH TI! A REAL FREIND WOULD OF STOPED THE FIRST TIME U TOLD HIM! THINK BOUT IT!
2006-07-25 02:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by HTOWNGURL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since he is a friend, you two should be able to sit down and have an honest, open discussion about it. Be honest with him about your feelings, but try not to hurt his ego
2006-07-25 02:25:23 · answer #7 · answered by bambi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-25 02:25:48 · answer #8 · answered by sinjan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to Tom Likus if you can...There is no such thing as guy friends unless their gay...A guy is only friendly to you because he wants to get into your pants.
2006-07-25 02:23:50 · answer #9 · answered by Tom M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find him a girlfriend.
2006-07-25 02:25:21 · answer #10 · answered by myANSWERS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋