Its been 10 months. She says she is not comfortable with it like some other girls.
Reminder: I m the one who is holdign the strings and im a really hygenic person. So please help... Iwant the oral sex only from mygrilfriend as well not from others...
2006-07-24 19:18:46 · 25 answers · asked by c9secs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If she doesnt want to let it go......if you LOVED her you'd respect her.
2006-07-24 19:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by angelbabe3009 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see you have been with her for a while now so you should be able to understand her fairly well. She gave you her truthful answer that she's just not comfortable with the idea. So I still don't know why you have to ask such a question, you already have your answer!
Give her the respect she deserves and get over yourself! My guess is that she's either never done something like this before, or going off her response of "some other girls" maybe she's not comfortable with her sexuality and is afraid if she does this she will be labeled a s l u t or maybe she had a bad experience in the past. I would suggest turning the situation around, sit in her shoes once and pretend you feel as she does. How would you want someone to handle this situation for you?
I think it's great you only wish for this from her, but life is a long journey and sometimes it's nice to reserve some things for later in the relationship. My husband and I didn't get heavy into oral sex until we had been married for about half a year. It was nice to be able to share something we hadn't experienced much over the previous 6 yrs with each other. And even still we don't do it all the time, but we surprise each other with something unique when we do!
You don't want to race through exploring everything right away, you won't have much to look forward to and couldn't possabily get the best and full sensation from it all anyways.
Be patient and explore her wants, make her your priority not your dick!! What's ment to be will.
Good Luck
2006-07-27 20:31:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out why she doesn't like it. Ask her. Maybe she's just shy, or maybe she's self-concious cause she's never done it or maybe she just doesn't like the idea. Either way try to get to the bottom of the problem. Maybe you guys can come to a compromise, where she would give it a try as long as you also do something for her that you don't normally like doing.. maybe she changes her mind... you never know. but if nothing works in the end, remember you can't force her to like it if she just doesn't. You have to decide whether you can live without oral sex!! ;)
2006-07-24 19:31:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some places the age of consent is eighteen (on a similar time because it somewhat is sixteen interior the united kingdom) so that is that she only would not desire to interrupt the regulation. in case you rather do love her, then you definately will wait till she is waiting. end attempting and clarify to her which you do want intercourse yet you will wait till she initiates it. while you're the two over the age of consent, you're able to sit down along with her and ask her approximately her motives. that is that she has based her determination on myths or different subjects that don't practice and via sitting down jointly and discussing this like adults, you're able to come again to a compromise or a minimum of an understanding.
2016-12-10 13:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just not comfortable with that and you need to respect her for her honesty. You may feel left out but you can't force her to do it and you can't change how she feels. Just respect her. Maybe in time she will change her mind. But if no then oh well. By the way don't pressure her or beg her because that is a huge turn off. Maybe if you just leave the subject alone now that you know how she feels, she may surprise you one day. Good Luck
2006-07-24 19:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by rqtpie19 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the choice to respect her decision or not. Some girls really don't like sucking dick, it makes no difference what your hygiene is. Maybe she's just not THAT comfortable with you yet. I only liked doing it with my first boyfriend, whom I was most comfortable w/ of all the guys I've been with so far. So, I've never done it on anyone else and have no intentions to yet. But, if she doesn't want to do it, you can live with that and just have intercourse and hand jobs, or you can leave her for someone willing to do it.
2006-07-24 19:22:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most fulfilling relationships are those in which both partners are unselfish. Since oral sex is not a thing that pleases her--only you--you need to be unselfish. If you can't handle not getting serviced this way from her, then you care more about your needs than hers, and the relationship wouldn't work anyway, so give it up.
2006-07-24 19:27:44 · answer #7 · answered by chdoctor 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, i hate to say this, but really it's only if the girl wants to. you can't force her too. maybe you should try to gently introduce it to her in some way......maybe watching a porno, if she is into that kind of stuff, or maybe she is the type that gives as good as she gets...in other words, if you go down on her she may be willing to do that to you. but dont get discouraged if she still doesn't, some women just don't like to do that to a guy. it's normal if she doesn't and i wouldnt hold a grudge if she didnt do that for you. there are other ways she can please you. hope this helps.
2006-07-24 19:24:01 · answer #8 · answered by Tracey E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some girls are very grossed out by the thought of it. Just dont push. If she is going to do it, it will be in her own time. Sometimes though it's just not gonna happen. Make sure that you make her feel comfortable. If she wants to she will come around.
2006-07-24 19:23:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shallow to say, but if it's this important to you, break up with her. I feel the same way. And trust me, if she's not into it, she will never be in to it. It will be something she will hold over your head forever, and will be a point of resentment and bargaining for as long as you are together.
It is really simple, if we all just didn't date girls that won't give oral, they'd all come around pretty quickly.
2006-07-24 19:31:35 · answer #10 · answered by GobleyGook 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no means no dude, either you comprimise and find other avenues for enjoyment or get a new girlfriend. Maybe she just needs time, pressure is the sure fire way to make it take longer or all together lose her. Leave her be and treat her like a lady. She deserves it.
2006-07-24 19:23:09 · answer #11 · answered by Gynolotrimena Lubriderma-Smith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋