The problem is I want to be 100% sure and not overreact. What are simple ways I can track her activities w/out bringing unnecessary attention? I was coinsidering hiring a detective but I don't have that kind of money. I've already hacked her Myspace and Gmail account but so far she has no idea. I only read her sent and inbox mail. Problem is I have no idea what is going on "outside" of the house.
2006-07-24 19:04:09 · 12 answers · asked by kimchee_boi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For the record I'm NOT BEING NOSEY or PARANOID. Like I frickin' already mentioned, I just want to make sure I have all the facts in order before I confront her about it. Unlike many of you who would insist on rather going crazy and acting stupid in front of your spouse.
2006-07-24 19:29:28 · update #1
Im thinking that if u hacked into her emails and myspace and still wanting to know , that means u didnt find anything substantial in there..
What makes u think she is cheating?? Look if u need to do it to feel more secure then do it.. but when she comes up clean after u searched through all her stuff then u need to stop actting psychotic and let it go..
Check the computer history, if ur going into accounts she knows u know she has, if she was doing anything online it wouldnt be under the accounts u know about so check the history on ur computer.. possibly u can get a "spy " program to see what she's doing on the internet if ur that worried.. check her cell phone bills have the bills set up to see who she is calling and who is calling her and for how long..
If shes leaving the house to go somewhere and it doesnt seem right, go check and see if she's really there, look for her car in the parkinglot of where ever she told u she was going..
when all this comes up clean.. STOP torturing urself, and her with your insecurities.. its only keeping u from enjoying ur marriage.. so do what u have to do to see if ur feeling is right, if it is.. act on it, if u search for a bit and cant find anything QUIT! ur answer is she's faithful and u need to trust her..
2006-07-24 19:20:09 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No do not directly ask her. If she is cheating and suspects you know anything, she and happy will only get better at deceiving you. Do not ever let on. Play Mr. Perfect, keep your eyes open. Watch your bank statements. Check out her cell phone bill. I'm sorry you are going through this. Go to one of those "spy shops" buy a phone recorder, buy a Internet cam that can be hidden. Set it up in a room you know she goes for privacy like when she talks on the phone. You have every right. Check to make sure it is working, try it out a couple nights to make sure you have the angle perfect on the camera. Then one day tell her you are going out, maybe to a dentist appt or something, plan to be gone for an hour or so. Have a flower delivered (nothing to big) with card that says something like, I can't wait to talk to you, see you, be with you, I feel like I am alive for the first time. Don't sign it from anyone, leave it blank. When you get home, don't play suspicious or snoopy, just say your appointment wore you out, remember to talk funny if you said dentist. Go lay down. If the flowers are no where to be seen. You'll have a pretty good idea. Time to splurge for that PI, there is a lot they can do. If you try to do it all yourself, you are guaranteed to tip her or her slim ball off.
2006-07-25 02:19:48 · answer #2 · answered by whostolemyprofile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok my friend told me about this test there are five questions to it: 1. Sweetie, where do you good after work ( ask very nicely), 2. Sweetie, who many male friends do you have? (ask SUPER NICELY) 3. Sweetie, do you still love me? ( ask REALLY SWEET) 4. Sweetie, do you think or sex life is good (ask VERY softly) 5. Sweetie, if I die would you remarry (ask nice). Each questin is worth 20 points if she says nowhere for #1, more than 5 for # 2, kinda a lil for # 3, if she says not really for #4, and yes for # 5 she is cheating on you. Oh PS remeber tell her to be truthful.
2006-07-25 02:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by [S.S. NiKA]L0V3S H3R S0M3 TiP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your spending half of your day away snooping into her personal space.... sounds like your very insecure.... if you were giving her what she needed, she probably wouldn't be having an affair in the first place....on the other hand, if she is playing hoochie mama, then why not be open about it and tell her that you don't play games. If you can't trust your wife, why did you marry her?
2006-07-25 02:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by Tainted_Halo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there seems to be no trust in your marriage and that is a problem seeing as that is the base for a good one. you two need to talk and try and get to the bottem of this becasue there seems that it maybe be more going on in your marriage then just this one thing
2006-07-25 02:16:26 · answer #5 · answered by LoTs2ShArE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being unfair and a snoop. Just straight out ask her, you'll know by the look on her face.
2006-07-25 02:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by Melody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PI is not that expensive if the case is a local one.
2006-07-25 11:43:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all satifsy your wife so that she would not go search of some one.. sp **** more as much as possible
2006-07-25 04:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by srini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if this is bothering you so much. Eyes don't lie and if she is you'll know.
2006-07-25 02:11:06 · answer #9 · answered by mergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to ask your self why she is cheating? is it because of you if she is really cheating on you....
2006-07-25 05:23:26 · answer #10 · answered by Jack T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋