There is a small concrete patio leading up to my front door that is shared with my neighbors. It is written in the lease that this area is not to be used to store things, but it is constantly cluttered with bikes, scooters, chairs etc. I have casually mentioned this to the managers several times and nothing has been done. I cannot move because of my lease, but I also don't want to become the 'neighborhood whiner.' It is like an obstacle course just to get to my front door, and I have an infant and a toddler to take with me whenever I leave. Does anyone have any suggestions? I don't want to get in to a big confrontation with my neighbors...I've even gone out there and put everything away neatly hoping they would get the hint, but that didn't work.
2006-07-24 18:48:44 · 7 answers · asked by jeanne 2 in Home & Garden ➔ Other - Home & Garden
I'm afraid you are going to have to choose between the clutter and your fear of being labeled a "whiner". You have already attempted to address the issue without any confrontation, and you are being politely ignored.
I'm not sure why you feel your lease is enforceable only from the lessor's side. It is a two-party agreement, and their failure to perform has consequences, not the least of which may be allowing you to terminate the lease without penalty. It is time to have a sit-down with the managers, and remind them of the legal obligation of the lessor as described in the lease.You might further remind then that all of that clutter affects their property value, and creates a potential liability if someone were to become injured as a result of their failure to enforce the lease with your neighbor. If they are still intractable, it's time to seek the advice of an attorney or paralegal.
2006-07-24 19:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by Elwood Blues 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The issue is about boundaries. The issue is also about assertiveness. This is a great experiment for you to learn more about your inner world and how little things seem so hard sometimes.
What is actually happening is pretty simple to deal with. Knock on the door and explain to your neighbor the understanding you have with the landlord. Keep your other complaints to a minimum and make the first encounter short and sweet. Make a written record of the encounter.
The next time it happens, knock on their door and mention the problem again -again, keep it factual, explain that you had an understanding in your lease, and that you need the patio clear so that you don't trip on anything, or have to walk around anything. Factual, to the point, and brief.
Now, here, if there is a confrontation, remember - what you are asking is reasonable and previously agreed to. If the neighbor loses their temper, keep your ground, but don't react in anger. What you are asking is simple and factual. Repeat like a broken record.
On the third try (probably needed if you are getting the "okie dokie" from the neighbor, go to the landlord. State factually and simply that you requested that the neighbor clean the patio of cluttler on two occasions, and you would like the landlord to take action.
If that third attempt doesn't work, INFORM the landlord that you will be breaking the lease if something doesn't get better. If your landlord seeks to embarrass you or call you a whiner, just remember that you are asking a simple and reasonable thing. If he decides to act belligerent - that's his problem and not yours.
I know this is all easier said than done, but if you find some anxiety happening in you as a result of the simple steps here, then check out facts about boundaries and boundary psychology. It's there that you will find the tools to confront your fears and manage a good outcome in this situation.
2006-07-24 19:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by Andy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you even wonderful it then? You're giving them meals and 'borrowing' cash, I consider even I could maintain on coming again for 'freebies'. What you have got to do is to begin with inform those persons to 'kindly leave' the following time they knock at your door, and as for the noise and distruption, name the noise patrol. That's what they are there for. You need to be merciless to be style! After all, what'll occur if you do not? You and the leisure of your neighbours are going to have alot of sleepless nights! Good Luck.
2016-08-28 18:26:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good question. I would talk to the managers again, and tell them that you hurt yourself trying to get past all of their clutter. Maybe then they will get it that something needs to be done. but they might tell your neighbor that you said it was a problem, so confrontation might not be avoidable. well good luck!
2006-07-24 19:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you approach your neighbors thinking it's going to be a "confrontation", it will be. Try to be friendly and neighborly about it; mention your difficulty getting through with your kids, and that you're concerned for their safety.
Maybe they'll be nice about it. Think positively!
2006-07-24 18:54:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit whining on here and talk to your landlord? How hard is that?
2006-07-24 18:56:09 · answer #6 · answered by alumni77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fu#k em brake there stuff or throw it away dont risk braking you neck
2006-07-24 18:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋