i got on my daughters computer because i dont like when she gets on messaging things because of sexual preadators. then i went to see what websites she been on. she has been to gay lesbian and masturbating sites. is this bad? should i confront her? say what to her? please help
2006-07-24 18:48:43 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
she is only 13
2006-07-24 18:51:48 · update #1
i divorced my husband because he cheated on me and i turned lesbian. i dont know if that is having a factor about the gay/lesbian porn site.
2006-07-24 18:53:55 · update #2
How old is she?
2006-07-24 18:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by Mary 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well. . . certainly what you do depends a lot on her age. If she is 18 or older please send her to me! ha ha ha Just kidding of course! Seriously though. . . . this is definately a tough call. Nowadays whether parents like it or not. . . kids . . yes kids are talking about. . . looking at on the internet. . .and yes. . having sex. Our society bombards our youth with sex and tells them it is ok to have but then when some wrong comes from it we act shocked. I would definately talk to her about it and make sure you talk TO her and not AT her. Explain to her the risks and dangers of sex at a young age as well as the responsibilities that can arise from it. Explain that you love her dearly and don't want some mistake in her childhood to handicap her for the rest of her life. Since she is already looking at these sites her interest is there and her curiosity has been sparked. The fire is lit and will never be put out. What you need to do as parents is control the fire. Good Luck and God BLess!
2006-07-24 18:55:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't confront her about masturbating; that is normal and healthy. However, do tell her looking a porn at her age is inappropriate and that you will not allow it in your house. Take her computer away, she doesn't need it in her room if she is only 13. If you don't want to do that, the install parental blocks.
2006-07-24 19:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No child should have a private computer. It should be in a family activity area where the parents can keep an eye on what's going on. Take the computer out of her room! Have a private talk with her & express your concerns without being accusing. She may be going through a phase where she is questioning her sexuality & needs reassurance.
2006-07-24 18:55:06 · answer #4 · answered by Da Bomb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like youre a Good Parent, I mean you are concerned and I'd say you dont need any of our advice on what to do with your "curious" daughter. But since you asked I would confront her and talk to her about it... If that doesnt help dont let her on the computer unmonitored ;)
2006-07-24 18:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a teen and i've been on alot of sites like that. For me it meant seeing if I was into other girls. Or because seeing put a boost to my horninest. But soon or later she will tell even I told my mama. Give her time. It's not so much as a bad thing.
2006-07-24 18:55:50 · answer #6 · answered by Raychelle W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let her get on the internet.If you love your daughter you will protect her. The internet is not a safe place for kids to start with,Im sure your a good mom,,try spending more one on one time with her ,such as going to a movie,shopping,or even getting an icecream,may sound cheesy but just try it.And when you Talk to her, be gentle.
2006-07-24 20:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by Annette P82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems your daughter is having questions about her sexual identity..I was thirteen when I started looking at porn and all my parents did was berate me. I suggest speaking with her openly about her sexual curiosity. Let he know that it's okay to have strong feelings. Ask her how much does she look at it? And see if it's beyond the norm for her age? If your daughter has been molested it can also lead to alot of difficulties within her sexual identity at this age! I suggest speaking with her casually and letting her confide in you. If she feels she needs to have sex go to a psychologist or family counselor to see why she has such a strong sex drive at a young age.
2006-07-24 18:56:47 · answer #8 · answered by ILAUGHATU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess you should have a talk with her about the birds and bees as a parent. Right now she is going through puberty and of course every child going through puberty is curious about sex. Just like you and me and others when we were growing up too! Relax! As long as you monitor her behaviour and teach her what's right or wrong I see no harm in what she is doing. Maybe she will get out of that phase one day.
2006-07-24 19:00:26 · answer #9 · answered by Lawrence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her and explain to her that it's ok to explore your sexual side but not right now! she's way to young to be looking at porn and lesbian things, maybe she's been around it and wants to know more about it! please talk to her, i know it might feel funny by confronting her, but that's your daughter and you don't want no one leading her in the wrong direction! she's a teenager and is getting ready to go through many many changes in her life, so just be there for her and be supportive! good luck!!
2006-07-24 19:01:15 · answer #10 · answered by ti'lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, yeah, how old is she? Gee. She's probably just curious. If you do decide to say something, just make sure she understands that while what she sees there on the web is real, it isn't the norm. She will likely be pretty confused about what sex is really like. ...assuming she's not like 30 and you're just a weird stalker mom!
2006-07-24 18:57:45 · answer #11 · answered by Sir Sandwich Slayer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋