There's this girl who has nits and doesnt brush her hair and has stains all over her shirts, and she has a bad wisp. She's kind of geeky, she always talks about how she's going to be so hardcore rocker girl.. yet she wears pink and "cute" monkey shirts.. I'm not judging her by how she looks, becasue just how she is.. she's not really kind of friend material for me, she says we're going to be best friends forever, I stuck up for her when people were calling her down.. now she thinks were BFF.. but we're not.. how do i tell her i dont want to be her friend?
2006-07-24 18:43:50 · 15 answers · asked by x0xbleedblackx0x 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
WTF I Guess You Got The Wrong Idea.. If I was Such a ***** I would have just said "Oh, I Don't Want To Be Your Friend" just like that, not even caring about her feelings, and I DO like her, its just that I don't want her to think something else.. I wouldnt mind being her FRIEND but not BEST FRIEND, you ugly ******.
2006-07-24 18:56:56 · update #1
Back away slowly and become "incredibly busy".
2006-07-24 18:47:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy.
Maybe she has no Idea how others see her.
Ask her if she is willing to sit, talk and listen to an honest, non judgmental friendly conversation. Explain to her that you don't like seeing anyone being bullied and that you really care what happens to her, but you just don't feel that there is any chemistry for friendship. If she receives this well, than ask permission to suggest some ways that she might be able to preserve her potential "punk" style while Cleaning up and becoming a Lil more accepted by others. She probably has no one who to share Feminine Things with.
You never know once you spend this time with her you might not want to end the friendship.
2006-07-24 18:57:53 · answer #2 · answered by girlsm9frmgod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds a little bit like you are judging her on how she looks. sticking up for her is a great thing to do, and yes it sounds like she took it a little bit too far with the best friend forever thing. there is no easy way to tell someone you don't want to be friends with them. you can be friendly w/o being best friends... maybe tell her you already have a best friend but still consider her a friend. Just remember that someone like that probably gets their feelings hurt easily so don't be mean or rude. you never know... once you get to really know her, she could end up being one of the best friends you ever had.
signed, X-dork turned hottie
2006-07-24 18:57:00 · answer #3 · answered by tiffy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that is a tough position to be in. kudos to you for sticking up for her. how do you know if she isn't "friend material" everything you've said seems pretty materialistic. have you given her an opportunity, or are you only seeing the book for it's cover? if indeed it is just something skin deep, try giving eachother make-overs. that is a polite way of making her to be what you like. very superficial but it may prove fruitful. if indeed it is just her personality that conflicts with you, then be honest with her. let her know you don't think you share similar interests. it's better to take care of it now rather than later.
but really ask yourself, why did you stick up for her? i'm sure you didn't do it for no reason, why would you risk yourself for someone you don't like?
2006-07-24 21:00:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, there's no way to say this without hurting someone. But just tell her you think she's a nice person but you don't want to be her best friend. Tell her if you run into each other and she says hi, you'll say hi back. She'll get over her disappointment.
2006-07-24 18:50:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But why dnt you want to be friends her?? because of what she wears, and her smell, you know she might be there when you have no one else. Just think about it??? Maybe you should look at the good things and bad things about being her friend, just think about how you would want people to treat you if you were in her place. Don't forget about karma!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-24 18:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by Monique D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That a real hard questions. Think about how would you feel it somebody did that for you how would you feel about that person. So why not try to tell let beassicoates then friends then bff
2006-07-24 18:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by Raychelle W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband did the same for a guy in highschool... to this day he calls and gets buddy buddy, and he just shrugs him off and doesn't reply to calls/e-mails. I don't know what to say. I think I would have to step up and just say that you guys don't have similar interests and that you're busy this time in your life, but you still want to be friends and hope it drifts off... Sorry I couldn't be more helpful.
2006-07-24 18:49:20 · answer #8 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her nicely that its not that you dont think she'd be a cool person. You just dont want to be friends with her. She may be upset. But there is no nice way of letting her down. Cause its either that, tellin her to bug off. or avoiding her at all costs.
2006-07-24 18:48:25 · answer #9 · answered by Nina R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I wouldnt hang around someone with lice. Thats just sick.
I have a phobia of having bugs on my head so that would be out of the question.
2006-07-25 01:20:43 · answer #10 · answered by tangerine9561 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you just stuck up for her and don't really feel you could be a good friend to her because your a bytch.
2006-07-24 18:48:26 · answer #11 · answered by ILAUGHATU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋