Last night I went out with my father, and 2 co-workers, 1 co-worker I picked up (she has no car) and we went to a concert and my co-worker was drunk, she was falling all over the place and had the smell of liquor on her breath. She recently moved here and has no friends or family and she's a single woman. This is the first time I've seen her like this, however I've noticed many bruises, broken blood vessels, and seen other signs that are signs of an alcoholic. The thing that is difficult is that I have to work with her every day. I am concerned for her well being and her job. Also this woman is 20 years older than me. Should I confront her or leave her alone, and if I do confront her, how do I?
2006-07-24 18:36:17 · 5 answers · asked by penabri 1 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
I am not her superior if anything she is my superior. She's in her 40's, I am in my 20's. She's been working here for 2 months.
2006-07-24 18:50:03 · update #1
I think the best thing to do is let her know you're concerned, then back off. She's going to do whatever she wants to do and may resent you no matter what your intentions are. Don't make suggestions, go to AA or church, get help, etc., unless you plan on alienating her.
Brief interventions, such as just expressing your concern, is the number one way that people make the decision to quit; any more might only cause her to go on the defensive.
2006-07-25 01:02:40 · answer #1 · answered by raysny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im gonna go with .. very carefully. First I would find out a little more about her. Ask other co workers taht you trust who might have gone out with her on previous occasions. Second, when you do approach her, tell her you are concerned about her performance. Tell her you feel like she is holding back in her work and ask her if there is anything she can think of that might be influencing this.. whether in her personal or professional life. Try and get her to come to you with her problem. I dont think you want to go accusing her of anything until you know for sure.. it might tarnish a good thing. Good luck!
2006-07-24 18:47:01 · answer #2 · answered by akosmacek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very commendable. I recommend gathering some printed material from AA websites. Also have in there something that indicates how alcohol affects ones liver. She should be taking milk thistle. Starting off at a low dose and gradually increasing it over time.
If she doesn't accept the info, then you know.
If she does, then you've led her in a good direction.
2006-07-24 18:42:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is the first time you have seen her like this then maybe you should chill out and just observe. Since she just moved here and was with some people she knew maybe she felt safe enough to tie one on.
2006-07-24 18:45:33 · answer #4 · answered by 3DDD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is an alcoholic she probably won't appreciate your concern. If you really feel you need to do something I suggest you go to some AA meetings and talk to some people who know what to do and say.
2006-07-24 18:41:05 · answer #5 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋