dating sucks doesn't it..read on?

Question

dating sucks. when you really like someone, all you can do is think about them. then when they don't call u, it is sad, ........ok, i guess i'm just talking from my own experience. I started dating this guy (i'm in my late twenties) and now when i can't see him i feel so sad, and start figuring out what i did wrong. I am so careful to not be annoying of anything, and act needy, I always can play it so cool, until i fall for them, then I'm an idiot. what is my problem?

Answer 1

You are in LOVE.....but you don't know him that well yet so the communication between you two isn't well developed. Once you get to know someone you feel comfortable and not so anxious. Don't wait for him to call you, most girls let the guys make all the moves, you should show some interest and call him, maybe he wonders why you don't call him?? You don't act like an idiot you are acting normal!

Answer 2

you give in too easy
and thus why they don't call back
you have to be on the edge of being a b i t c h
yet at the same time be mother teresa
you have to be not too enthusiastic
in the same way a guy might not call you back is because he is in demand and thus you are merely "filler" for his time
at a young age ( i'll assume he is latge 20s ) if he knows he's in demand and has a good carrer path ideally he will not hook up seriously with any girl until he is early 30s or later ( when he vested in his career ). most men know women can be demanding and dream killers, and if he that white, dark and handsome wll educated and financially secure , the he can be more picky than most men and can pretty much shoot for what he wants in a women ( knowing full well the divorce rate is abour 65% ) and keep his options open.

Answer 3

I understand what you are saying. The problem might be that you are looking for a relationship to define your self-worth. We usually do this when we feel that if someone would just love us, then everything would be ok. It's very uncomfortable for the party on the other end. It's imperitive that you become comfortable in your own skin and then your attitude will change. You will realize that you get to pick whom you go out with and not be relying on them to contact you. Men love this in a woman because they realize that the woman is a hot commodity and they'd better act fast, or she'll find someone else.
A good place to start to work on you is at
http://www.coping.org/growth/content.htm
Best of luck!

Answer 4

You're in a place of risk and it feels risky and unstable, yet appreciate your place. Instead of wanting to cling to that next great catch, empower yourself with thoughts of good selfy talk knowing that's what will empower a wonderful relationship with whoever you choose. Self-pity and hurt are a downward cycle that's hard to stop the domino effect. However, you can at any point. Know you have the power, girl.

Yes, Our culture needs a bit of pruning in how to help our progeny create lasting love relationships. For example, where are there places that encourage discussions that help us relate our inmost thoughts in a safe arena and allow us to value others from afar for awhile.

I know our culture is overly focused on sex. That's just not as important as most couples will say later. We need to allow ourselves a safe haven of places we can share opinions from the heart, be honest and caring, and know we are heard and valued by many. This would be a better place like some churches could be. I think church is a pretty good place to meet someone who might care like that. Of course, God is that person first in my life. He gives me stability like no one else can.

God bless you. Sing songs that upbuild instead of focus on someone being the "right one," but help you to be in the right mind. "Flee youthful lusts" should be a good song. "Hold fast to that which is Noble and True." Maybe I'll start a new genre of music!! I like those oldies like Peter, Paul and Mary sang that encouraged people to really think about "This Land Is Your Land." "This Train is Bound for Glory" even "Lemon Tree" about how love relationships often go sour. Take a lesson from that lemon tree. I enjoyed reading a book lately about Maria Von Trapp (like the Sound of Music was a story after her. She really got into being all God wanted her to be. I liked the way they used to date and even spend all night together and never once would the thought of sex ever cross anyone's mind. It just wasn't the age appropriate thing for 18-22 year olds at least in Austria. It's not just that God usually doesn't want most people to be nuns or monks. I'm not of that opinion either. I enjoy a very loving husband and kids, although my husband and I need more time together (he's busy with work now.)

God bless you in your delicate balance hormonal time. Ask God to help you. If you do sincerely, He will. You have everything to gain. James says he gives wisdom to anyone who asks sincerely. Take care. Don't let the heat get to you.

Answer 5

Here's an idea -

Wait a reasonable time (when you think you are over this guy) and give him a call. Tell him that you are sad it didn't work out and you would like him to be honest and explain why. Tell him you are entering another relationship and want to learn from your mistakes. He may be nice enough to give you his view of what went wrong.

Answer 6

you're a hopeless romantic like many of us. i blame the chickflicks. but anyways, since when did we start letting guys control the way we feel. its sad, you're right. try taking up a hobby that involves your mind and body. that way when you fall for someone, you have a way to get away from them in hopes to not obsess over them and scare them away.

Answer 7

when men are mean women come back to them, when men are nice women kick them in the butt. the same applies to women.

Answer 8

u try 2 hard . y not let urself b .

Answer 9

i don't think it's you. maybe it's him. takes two to tango yah know.

Answer 10

your crazy.