my friends mom died today, it's really sad but i have no clue what to say to her. What should i do?

Question

her mom was healthy but she just died, i really want to comfort her but i dunno what to say

Answer 1

Hey there-- I'm so sorry to hear that... I teach h.s. kids and this happens from time to time. I think that being present in your friend's life is the most important thing. Every teen deals with it in a different way-- some withdraw, some show anger, some don't.. the secret is to let your friend grieve in the way that feels appropriate to her. To simply be her friend is the most important thing. Also, you might find out resources in your school or community (support group, etc.) and say that you'd be willing to take her there. Show her that you love her and that you and your friends will be there for her.

Answer 2

I think the best thing u can do is to be by her side hugging her and telling her that everything will be all right...

When the momment is right, try to cheer her up, try to keep her busy and having fun with u and some other friends

Let her know that she can count on u for anything she needs and u'll be always there for her

That'll make her feel better and will make her realize that she is not alone in this world, 'cause she got u

And hey! u r a great friend just for being worried for her... I just wanna let u know that u r a great person. It is really nice what u r doing for her

Good luck!

Answer 3

So sorry for your friend's loss. My mother died suddenly too and what i remember the most is friends who told me how sorry they were that my mother had died and that they were always available to talk to me. Then they called me several times over the next few months to make sure I was doing okay. After a few weeks of keeping in touch with her, asks her to tell you some stories about her mother, maybe some happy stories and maybe some sad stories. You will be a real friend by just listening.

Answer 4

Some people hate hearing "I'm so sorry" (after all, it wasn't your fault, right?) but if you tell her that you're there for her in whatever she needs, she will really appreciate it. As well, check in with her and ask her how she's doing, but let her decide whether she wants to talk about it or not - if she doesn't want to, don't push the issue.

Answer 5

Really the only thing you can say is without words, "I am here". Just be there for her when she needs to express her feelings. The akward moments of silence is actually ok and don't feel you have to fill that silence with words. The silence of your presence is enough.

Answer 6

Tell her that you are sorry for her loss. My grandfather died last year and my girlfriend told me that she was sorry for my loss and just held me for 30 minutes until I was done crying. Nobody likes to loose a loved one. So it's always better to have that comfort zone when you hold her tight and tell her that you are sorry for her loss.

Answer 7

Sometimes it is just your presence counts. when my dad died, I don't want to hear anything, any advice or what..I want to be at peace but what I appreciate a lot is the presence of people who care and understand.Hope this helps :)

Answer 8

If shes a close friend, stop by and sit down next to her. hug her and talk in a soft voice and tell her that she can cry all she wants. she will feel cofertable and later she can talk to you. Ask her if it;s ok if they talk about it.be sure only to ask mostly yes or no questions so they dont have to talk. and you ask her if she wants anything and send her gifts.

Answer 9

I hear that when you talk about their memories and listen to what she has to say is always a good start.

Answer 10

Go to her and let her know your there to help if she needs you.
Take her a meal or two and be with her if she needs you.
Talking with a friend can help alot.
Love her and just let her know you care.