how can I tell them no?

Question

I always do things for people that I hate doing, or don't want to do at that moment in time. I don't know how to tell people no!

This guy wants me to babysit his kid at his house, I don't really know him that well. I wanted to say no, but I gave him my number instead and said I'd be happy to do it. How do people be so bold and blunt and honest? How can I do it? I've always been that way, and I'm getting tired of it. Helpppp!

Answer 1

First of all, when he calls, tell him something came up and you can't do it, sorry. Then try to start thinking more selfishly - hey, everybody else is doing it!! This is a common problem for women - we are taught to be accomodating all the time...why do you think so many girls get into bad situations?

Men especially will take advantage of accomodating women, until you feel like you don't even know yourself anymore. It's OK to tell a little lie if you don't want to do something that someone asks of you. It sure is easier than saying 'no, i don't want to.'

At first, the people who are used to depending on you may feel put out, but they will get over it. Stop feeling guilty - this is YOUR life!! Time to take control of it! People will understand when you tell them that you have things you want to do that are important to you - in fact, it actually makes people respect you more when you say no. How do you think these greedy, selfish corporate moguls get all the riches in the world and everyone kissing their butts? Not by being pushovers, I'll tell you that. Be strong - you CAN do it!!

Answer 2

You have to learn this skill.
I, Timmy the Turd was once also shy and naive.
I got fed up and became a major @sshole. Life is much better.
Say what you feel. Be honest but also use discretion.

Acting crazy also helps. People tend to leave you alone if you act insane and carry around a lot of medicine bottles. When they ask you to do something - ask them to hold on for a minute or two and fumble through or purse "accidentally" knocking 4-5 medicine bottles on the floor. Then get really upset and panicky!
It will work!
Have a nice day.

Answer 3

I think you should try reading books on developing self assertion. You are stuck in a cycle of bad behavior and feeling sorry for the world and all of its pity can only damage your spirit. People need to be told No. If you always rescue the world how can it learn to stand on its own? You are not doing people a service when you say yes to everything, all you are doing is teaching them how to USE. Don't let people use you, you are far to valuable for that. Your true friends and loved ones will not ask of you, but you will want to do and help out of love not obligation. Energy and Time are the most valuable things we can give..EVER.. time is not something that comes cheap. You decide how you spend your time. If you keep finding yourself doing things for people you do not want to do, you need to ask yourself what you are worth. If you do something out of love, and kindness, you don't feel resentful in the end. Stand up for you, start living YOUR life now.

This is very co-dependent and you can over-come these feelings and cycle of behavior if you are willing to do the footwork. Read some self help books and discover how valuable your time here on Earth is. Make your purpose count. Do and Live the way you want and dream. Anything is possible if you put your mind to it.


God Bless You

Answer 4

It's hard, because when a person says no, the people insist. I've been in that aqward situation a few times. Just straight out no, and fight to hold your ground. But first figure out why you don't want to do what they want you to. Go ahead baby sit for him. The guy willprobably pay you. If you knew him better, he'd probably want to do something with u and ask another girl to baby sit.

Answer 5

typically YES typically NO. Pregnancy indicators are the equal as indicators of a interval coming so typically it is very rough to inform. tHE VERY BEST solution to recognise is to attend until a interval is overdue and do a hometest. I used to be 7 weeks earlier than i discovered with my daughter I NEVER felt ill pregnant sore boobs ANY SIGNS of being pregnant however, a + scan. With this being pregnant earlier than my interval used to be due i felt sizzling, irriated, crampy, sore boobs, the whole thing smelled horrible. All being pregnant are differnt even supposing a ladies is having no indicators and a interval is overdue it is first-rate to scan.

Answer 6

Stand up for yourself and say NO! It's easy. Don't worry about hurting feelings. Better to hurt their feelings then your own by doing something that you hate doing.

Answer 7

dont babysitt for pple u dont know well ok? especially some guy? y if he didnt know u well either would he even trust u wth his kids? i dont get that but wtvr. just say im not available nobody is gonna spank u for it or something geeze. good luck and stand up for u .

Answer 8

Either toughen up or continue to let people walk over u.

Answer 9

Try telling people you are busy with something else.

Answer 10

You should just do a sloppy work for him. So he won't bother you at all.