My wife hates sex. What should I do?

Answer 1

introduce yourself to Rose and her 4 daughters. In other words masturbate

Answer 2

Personally, I think it's something they put in the wedding cake. I hear this a lot from married guys I work with....some cheat, some can't bring themselves to do so...and I fall into the later. Just not my style, but I can't say I haven't been tempted, or not had a chance to. The ability to stay strong to my vows gets chipped away, little by little as I struggle with the fact that my wife really doesn't care for sex anymore. At 50, and married twice(first time at 28), I have seen this gremlin before. First wife I lived with for 3 years, and was married for 11 months. I paid 90% of the bills, helped take care of my 2 stepdaughters, put wife thru school working OT to pay for it, did 80% of the cooking and cleaning, did 100% of any car work, rubbed her feet when she got off of work, drew her baths, and we very never fought. While living together...I would get be awaken via a *******, about once a week and sex at least 3 times a week. Naturally, I would do my part with my scuba gear, and I am darn well good at that. After getting married though...even she said it..."We're married now", like...her quest was done. Lesson not learned #1.
My second marriage, and old flame from when I was 25 or so...was, and is still the love of my life. We were engaged back then, but that didn't work out because of distance, and both of us married different people and her hubby cheated, my wife cheated(see wife #1). Bottom line...we got back together and are currently married. We lived together for 7 years before we got married and sex was great, but after marriage...well...I am lucky to get some about once in three months. Again, I cook 90% of meals, pay 100% of the bills, do all the honey do stuff, It has come to the point where I think I have more of a roommate, than a wife--and we, have ALOT of history. I'm a good guy, I work all the time. I don't cheat, I just don't have it in me...but, I can see why some guys do. We see all this **** about how to "comfort" your woman"..."make her feel special"...how about WTF about US???? The guys who are trying to do right, NOT cheat...do all we can...and still brushed away like a turd, because we want the sex we signed up for, prior to a piece of paper. Yea...I am starting to get mad...just not for me, but for the many good husbands out there, who are faithful, hard working, take care of business...and are still treated like turds. If you have done all you can, and I do mean, all you can...cheat. You, are going to be blamed for it anyway, no fault of theirs..and they will never see the forest for the trees. .

Answer 3

Your wife fell in love with you.Now make her fall in love with sex.Present sex in the most beautiful way to her.To begin with abstain from having sex with her. Take her out for a holiday.Enjoy the beautiful surroundings.Talk to her of your days when you dated each other,of the lovely gifts you exchanged, of the intimate moments you spent,but do not show the slightest inclination towards sex. You will have to be strong to avoid sex, if, you want to enjoy a long happy sex life with your wife.
The next good thing you can do is bring her some lovely lingere,in which she looks very appealing.Don't force her to wear it.But she will to please you,remember, she does not like sex but she loves you.When you go in for a shower,call out to her to pass you a towel.Let her see you naked.Ask her to join you for a shower.Let the water be alittle cold first.Now turn on the hot water.This will relax her body.Walk out of the bathing room in your bathing robe,body wet into your bedroom.Wipe her in front of a mirror tell her how beautiful she is,and about her lovely figure.Then leave her alone. You turn around go to bed and fall of to sleep. Believe me friend she will follow you, and you will get what you want, in fact much more the you expect.

Answer 4

Your wife might not hate to have sex, it could be the way you try to approach . Have you try running your wife a hot bubble bath with candles and washing her up. Followed by an nice rub down with baby oil? Most man forget, a women like to be romance. Sometime man act like it the women's job to drop her panties and have sex.

Answer 5

Does she have a history of abuse? Are you two just not compatible in bed? Is it something emotional or is the timing just bad? Is it painful for her? She should get a medical check up as well. Talk it over with her, and try to come to the convo without accusations, anger or hurt, hard as that'll be. You're both prolly feeling defensive & that can escalate into hurtful words. If you love & want to stay with her, you can work your way thru it. If it's just not working, making a clean break & moving on is the best thing for both of you.

Answer 6

Does she hate sex in general or just with you? I am continually amazed at how men believe that they don't have to "learn the dance" with their wives; they're just supposed to be great at dancing!

You have to communicate with each other. You have to be able to know how each other moves, and you can't know anything like that if you aren't attentive and interested in learning what makes the dance fulfilling for both of you.

I would suggest you discuss this with your wife. That question can only be answered by her. Do you know that you shame her and yourself by putting those types of questions out in public?

Answer 7

Maybe she has had bad sexual experiences, like being raped or molested as a child.. Have you ever asked her why? She did know that once she got married that sex was a part of the package, right? Are you too rough with her? Maybe you guys need to see a psychotherapist or a sex therapist?

Answer 8

Look elsewhere...some women have a habit of turning into cold fish. No harm done. You are a man. You need it. So, if she doesn't wish to put out, that's OK. There are others. You can stay married to this woman, give her space and go do someone else. Its very simple when you think about it. OPEN MARRIAGE, they call it I think.

And oh hey, there is one catch to this too. If indeed your wife is not willing to put out because she is no longer attracted to you, and you are running around with some other floozies for your "needs", remember that she too has "needs" OK?

It works both ways, heh!

Answer 9

If this is recent behaviour you two may need counselling, its hard for a man not to express his "love" .......there must be a reson why she just started to hate sex..did she hate sex while dating?did you consummate the marriage?in the US if you two didn't consummate the marriage then it can be annulled you are in the UK So i don't know if its the same...get counselling u two need help and divorce is a terrible thing,...work it out !!!!

Answer 10

Take her out on more dates.

Serve her breakfast in bed.

Start her Saturday morning bath.

Buy her a pair of shoes.(Take her and let her pick them.) You just give her the money.

Write her a little note on a post pad, saying something like, "In here, looks the most beautiful woman in the worlds." And stick it to the mirror she uses to put her makeup on.

She will rock your world! You better be ready to back up your Sex Drive!

Answer 11

Do what all of the rest of us guys do. Understand that no matter what life throws at you, you can always count on the fact that there will be one very special person in your life who trough thick and thin, good times and bad, in sickness and in health will hate your guts and find everything you do to be wrong. Hope that helps.