With the demanding schedule of being (on reserve) I got called when I was needed and I had to be to the airport within 90 minutes and I had no idea what sort of trip it was going to be. Reserve status can be a very long time. It could be a 4 day trip away from home and I wouldnt know until I got to the airport. SO I quit and went back to my other job, there was a slight delay in the job change, but on reserve I wouldnt have been able to make my prenatal care visits because I would never know when I was in town.
It is safe to fly when pregnant but being on reserve made life hell. I am now 9 weeks pregnant, and my boyfriend is still so furious! I am working my other job now, but Im not in the wrong am I? I did it for the safety of our child and he is making me feel like I let the world down. What do I do? I was the youngest flight Attendant for the company (19) but I am mature, I just cant do everything. Please help. Thank you.
2006-07-24 17:59:49 · 16 answers · asked by natalie rose 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
For the record...He is getting really excited about the pregnancy. Its the change in job/wage that he is more mad about. It hurts, but its life. I'd rather be at an appointment knowing my fetus is safe, rather than flying in the air and never being home for a couple more bucks an hour.
2006-07-24 18:09:29 · update #1
He needs to understand that your baby comes first before any job important as it was monetary or watever and he is being unreasonable. He needs to stop bothering you about that subject because you do not need to be stressed out right now.
2006-07-24 18:05:27 · answer #1 · answered by Sweetie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait... your boyfriend is "furious" because you CHANGED JOBS? Even if you weren't pregnant this reaction would be unreasonable, for him to act like this when you had a very good reason for changing jobs (namely, making sure that your baby is healthy) is a good sign that he's an a$$. You're not in the wrong, he is, and you would do well to remember that and not let him control your emotions.
By the way, you may want to consider putting this baby up for adoption or having an abortion. The reason I say that is this: if you try to raise the baby yourself, you're going to be more or less stuck with this guy (at least to collect child support payments) until the child turns 18, and if your boyfriend is "making you feel like you've let the world down" over a change of jobs, that may be a precursor to more serious emotional abuse in the future. In particular, the reason he's furious with you may be that you changed jobs rather than just quitting, and he wants you to feel like you're completely dependent on him. If that's the case, you're going to be able to want to leave him when that happens, and having a child to take care of will effectively prevent that.
2006-07-24 18:12:06 · answer #2 · answered by Pascal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. You knew it would be irresponsible to be on reserve, and I'm guessing you did not make this decision lightly. Also, you have the other job, so it's not like you are just sitting on the couch and being lazy (not that it's wrong if you really need to). Your health and the baby's health should be your first priorities, and you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders.
Maybe he's upset because it's an insurance issue?
2006-07-24 18:31:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's amoney issue... either you were making more money as a flight attendant and he now has to work harder to match it up... OR, you're now making more money at your current job and he sees it as competition. WORST case scenario, he's cheating on you and having you around all the time is a problem for his rendevouz... you are not in anyway responsible for any of this... Seriously, why would anyone be mad that their loved one is not going away for a few days every once in a while... Not sure, what else to say, except that he's an inconsiderate jerk... sorry...
2006-07-24 18:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by Mexi Poff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll get over it and whatever happens you have your friends who probaly suport you and you can go back to flight attendent when the child is older or when boyfriend suports you until then tell the father of you baby that he was there and you didn't do it yourself and get off his high horse and help you and be a man or if you guys break up you could go after him for child support
2006-07-24 18:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by punkprincesspebbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs help tell him you are doing it for the "family." Then tell him if he doesnt like how you help bring the bacon home then he can go out and FIND better job. he needs some help. He is in the wrong. Ask him if he cares about the baby. Then tell him luckily ur not my husband then walk out the door on him and get a lawyer to sue him to help pay for expenses
2006-07-24 18:05:17 · answer #6 · answered by investing1987 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you did the right thing...if it is easier on your schedule and more likely to help with the pregnancy/care of the baby, you should do what is best. Is your bf more furious you are pregnant, or that you switched back to your regular job??
2006-07-24 18:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by asmul8ed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to grow up! you were in the right. pre natal care is very, very important. and you are still working. it's not like you quit your job to stay home and lie in bed! men are jerks! pregnancy doesn't usually affect them. i don't thing they get it until the baby is born. tell him that what you did, you did for your child. his and yours. if he's not okay with that, have him go to an appointment with you and have the doc tell him all about it! and if that still doesn't work, have HALF PINT NESSA whip on him a little. he'll come around then.
2006-07-24 18:09:21 · answer #8 · answered by luvbuggies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you did a bad thing, during the first trimester you have to be really careful bc there are more chances of having a miscarriage, why would he be upset knowing all these....you had a demanding job and i believe you did right to switch to other job...its not like you aren't doing anything, sorry to say this but your bf is an idiot
2006-07-25 06:23:51 · answer #9 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The health and safety of your baby is way more important than your boyfriend's sulking. I think you did the right thing. And even if you didn't, you did it for the right reasons. He should be more supportive of your feelings. B
2006-07-24 18:07:55 · answer #10 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋