I am 19. He is 25. I saw his profile on myspace. I like this guy and I would like to befriend him or even get into deeper realtionship. We know each other from the same job, though we work at different departments. We just started to get to know each other. At the beggining I suggest if we might hang out somewhere together. However he claimed he has no time for that. And he said it is nothing personal it is just time. Well at the beginning he did not wanted to say too much words to me. Now he even asked how am I doing. It happened since I told him I'm interested to go to gay bar. Personally he is gay. I am gay or bi. I wished I could meet him personally but how to ask him for that. At this time I think he just tries me to shunt me ( I mean send me away with no hurt). What I should ask him? By the way he studies psychology and I go for computer science.
2006-07-24 17:52:01 · 14 answers · asked by master343 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
In addition. I am Polish I speak English. He was born in the US.
2006-07-24 18:06:12 · update #1
I think you may be jumping the gun... I understand you're interested, but you don't want to scare the guy away... Ever heard the saying "Good things come to those who wait"? Maybe taking it slow and just trying to have simple conversations wold be the best thing to start doing. Going out would only complicate things, you have to think of what could happen when you get out together... Are you trying to be this person's friend or are you trying to get into his pants... If you're trying to do both, I reccomend slowing down a bit... It might get weird if you move too fast. If you get to know him, things will all flow and come together on its own, in my opinion.
2006-07-24 18:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by Myzz Undastood 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
The age difference between the two of is so small that it's insignificant; however, you've raised a few other issues that seem to bother you more than the age difference.
Take a chance. If you don't, you'll wonder what would have happened if you did. The worst he can say is, "No". Since you appear to have no strong emotional attachment to him, you really have nothing to lose...except a little more practice at meeting guys.
Best Wishes!
Best Wishes!
2006-07-24 18:54:13 · answer #2 · answered by Specious λ Neurotica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your age difference is nothing of significance. You're both still at a partying age.
You say that "I told him I'm interested to go to gay bar", well next time around ask him to take you to one. Be direct.
If you're unsure if he's trying to shunt you, why don't you tell him how you feel about him and that you'd like him to be honest about what he thinks of you two as boyfriends.
At least that way you'll be able to tell if he fancies you as anything more than a friend.
Good luck.
2006-07-24 19:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number (as long as the numbers are both legal anyway). 6 years is not that big a spread. I have a partner who is 6 years older than I am and we have been together for 4 years now. More important than age - what else do you have in common,,, if you are interested in dating him or at least getting to know him better face to face - just ask. The worst he can do is say no.
2006-07-24 18:03:35 · answer #4 · answered by rp_iowa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off if he used to be with a man he should not be regarded a "Virgin". He could also be dissatisfied by way of women now. Men additionally love to feel " He are not able to get pregnant, I don't want security" which may end up in STD. But Men additionally take longer to exhibit signs and a few instances don't exhibit signs they are able to admire. That apart,.. Yes.. a couple of years in the past it unfold like Wild Fire amoungst men that claiming you're a Virgin would get you laid,.. or atleast wildly broaden Odds. He is on the best age to have observed this out and began useing this. There used to be a moderate awareness whilst he used to be in High School and it unfold like wild hearth whilst he used to be approximately 20 or 21. Alot of guys do use that line they usually do get fortunate. It is utilized by ladies who lie as good. There could also be the relationship that ladies won't use security when you consider that they lack worry of STDs from you ( and already take Birth Control). The ladies that use this may have a couple of STD and take their Birth Control or already misplaced the ablity to naked youngsters from their wild personal lifestyles. I put out of your mind what else I used to be going to mention however you're proper to lean in the direction of disbelief.
2016-08-28 18:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age different in this case is insignificant. I used to go to school with a guy, who ended up living with a woman 20-25 years older than he is.
Anyone who says they haven't time for a relationship is talking utter nonsense. When the right person comes along, you make the time.
Its hard to make out how he feels. He might just want you as a friend. Its difficult to tell.
2006-07-24 19:05:02 · answer #6 · answered by nemesis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the risk of sounding repetitive the age difference is not the issue. There are other such his reaction to you and your evidently trying to push him into situations he does not feel comfortable with. You have broached the issue, as I'm sure he is aware of your feelings for him. The wise thing to would be to take a few steps back and let things develop at their own pace. If he likes you in a more romantic sense he'll let you know, just give him the chance to do it in his own way!
2006-07-24 19:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that there is any problem with the age thing.
It just sounds like he is not interested in you that way.
I think you need to just accept that it is not going to happen and leave the guy alone.
2006-07-25 02:17:18 · answer #8 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All it takes is two willing parties. My partner and I just celebrated 3 years together recently, and he is 8 years younger than I am (me=30's, him=20's)
2006-07-24 17:58:13 · answer #9 · answered by mresl2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age has nothing to do with this. If he were interested, he would have made equal moves as you have. Let it go, this one is not for you. There will be plenty of others. Good luck
2006-07-24 23:22:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋