Why do people get upset when others want to name their child something unique?

Question

what is wrong with not wanting your child to be named the same as all others...
I asked a question asking about the names i like and got some very rude comments... all i asked was which was prefered..not how i should teach my child values and all that crap...
why do people get so angry when you dont want your child to be a Sarah, or Michael...

Answer 1

Nothing wrong with having a unique name but there is a fine line between unique and insane. Taking a traditional name and spelling it differently or even giving it a different pronounciation is unique but giving a child a name like Pilot Inspektor is just plain wrong.

Answer 2

So when everyone has a unique name who will be the unique ones?

Because there is power in names. There is history in names. By making up names people are going against tradition. It is just another burden that children will have to carry.

Mispronounced names will be common place. It is like naming your son Shelby. While it is an acceptable male name in some parts of the country, in others it is the name you give to a girl and still others you name a pet.

Being unique for unique's sake is not a virtue. If you want your child to be unique, do them a favor, teach them that it is okay to be different. Giving them a made up name is just going to get them picked on.

Answer 3

When people ask "What name do you like better...X or Y?" they should be prepared for opinions...some nice and some not so nice. I think there's a difference between "unique" and just plain trashy/ghetto. I don't generally get upset and scream at people who have (what I consider to be) strange names picked out. I do give them my honest opinion though, and I don't sugar coat it.

When I read a strange name, my *immediate* thought is "How the heck is that little girl going to grow up and be taken seriously in the professional world as a doctor, attorney, accountant, etc. with a name like Shanequia Skye or Davinida Kimber?"

Answer 4

I don't think there is anything wrong with unique names...but you need to realize what you're setting your child up for. Constantly having to spell it out, sound it out, etc. with everyone they meet! I think people tend to judge for one of two reasons - 1. To be racist & prejudicial. 2. Because they dislike seeing more children subjected to the stereotype of weird/un pronouncable names. Give them a better chance to succeed - after all, how many CEO's have you heard of named Shaniqua or LaFonda? Studies have proven that the more "ethnic" sounding the name, the more prejudice their resumes receive before making it to a first interview! Try to come up with a unique, yet still simple name - something with an easy, just-as-it-sounds spelling (and not too long)! This way, she'll still be one-of-a-kind, but not enough to cause undue hardship. Good luck!

Answer 5

I don't get upset, but would urge people to think of how they would feel if they were growing up with an unusual name, would it lead to the child being bullied at school? I had a friend called Sunshine and she was tortured because of that. It's your child and in the end you should call it what you want, but if you do be prepared to face ridicule from people, it's a risk you take.

Answer 6

Well. . me personally. . . . I say to each their own. Howver. . . I find it completely stupid how everybody these days feels they have to name their child something nobody would ever think of or after some idiotic hollywood type. Names like shaquella, shaniqua, beyonce, quazell, tupac, and other pathetic ones are just enough to make me sick! And don't even get me started on the idiot so called adults and musicians with names like diddy, the dumb a$$ formally known as. . . snoop dog, and all the other ghetto idiots who think they are cool when they really are morons. By definition. . cool. . . is never having to act cool. The entire music industry. . especially crap rap should learn from this. All these moronic ghetto names are just a joke!

Answer 7

People get upset because they foresee the teasing the child is going to have to endure because his/her parent had to be "unique". Usually "unique" means ridiculous name. Like celebrities naming their children things like Tiger Lily, Moon Unit, Coco and Apple.

It is totally your choice. And clearly, unique does not have to mean ridiculous. But don't expect everyone to be happy. Many people feel sorry for the poor child who has to live with a name like that. There are names that fall somewhere in between outrageous and common.

Answer 8

Everybody in my family *except my grandpa* screamed and yelled til they were blue in the face over what i named my son *Daemion* He's gonna have a hard time spelling that. He's gonna get made fun of by the other little kids cause the movie the omen.. That when i had to point out the fact to them.. By the time the kids see that damn movie.. They well be out of the name calling stage. It will be more like f*ck you and so on... Yeah I ended up screaming at everyone telling them to kiss my white a** if they didnt like the name. Its not their kid so it doesnt matter what they think the name should be.

Answer 9

I think people get upset because they have insecurities from when they were taunted as a child, and all they can think of is if you give your child a unique name, he or she will be taunted, also. The decision is yours to make. If you give your child a name that he/she ends up hating, the name can always be changed. I have never liked my name, but I've stuck with it!

Answer 10

They just want their child name to be the one, only one, OR to be the first.
Nothing wrong of using same names, but you can always add to make a new additional unique name to it.
EG: Bond.. anyone using that name? James have it. Y not John Bond, Sims Bond.. should be OK . something unique too.