ok yesterday i walked in on my sister masturbating. (17) (im13) it was really wierd cause she like was fully nude and had a dildo out. i covered my eyes and ran out of the room. later i walked by her room and she was like softly crying. i have a good relationship with my sister (NOT INCEST YOU SICOS) i mean we ust to hang out and stuff bt since the incident we dont ever talk. she like walks out of the room when i walk into the room. not in a angry way but like an embarresed way. what should i do? how should i address her?
2006-07-24 17:23:47 · 13 answers · asked by italiandude1717 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You probably can not understand how deeply traumatized she is. There really isn't anything you can say - you both know what you saw. Give it time and let it pass. Chances are, there will be an opportunity for you guys to hang out that allows you to put it behind you.
2006-07-24 17:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by justwebbrowsing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask for her some help in a homework problem, or just ask her to help u in something u know she'll be able to do that u cannot do by urself. Make her feel that u still need her, and that she'll always be ur sister regardless what that door uncovered. Bring up a rhetorical question, philosophical one, whatever u guys are interested in. Stay away from sex/men issues for now.
Most likely it's gonna have to start with u, but don't make it too obvious that ure trying too hard. She'll know. Don't be extra nice, or extra helpful. Be the same u, and never mention what u saw unless she brings it up (which i highly doubt), and even then be a listener more than a talker.
This is a tough one, don't know how else to go about it. As another person had commented, give it time and things will go back to normal. Good luck.
2006-07-24 17:35:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it between you two, of course. If you want to wait, it'll take longer, but she'll get over it since it's human nature to forget. At this rate I guess it would take two, maybe three weeks, a month tops, and she'll be done with it and you can never talk about it again. If you don't want to wait that long, just tell her that you were just surprised. Don't say weirded out because she'll think it was bad what she was doing and it wasn't necissarily. Tell her that you don't care that she does it and that you'll knock from now on and she souldn't take it the wrong way. Make sure to think about everything not to say before you approach her. If you say something bad like you were weirded out or try to joke about it, she won't like it, so think carfully.
Best of luck.
2006-07-24 17:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by Some Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok- "italiandude1717" I think you're a poser. I don't think you're 13, and I don't know what to make of your question! How did your sister, a 17 year old, get a dildo anyway? In most states you have to be 18 to go into a store like that.
2006-07-24 17:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys without sisters do not comprehend females their age somewhat besides as in all probability person women, as a results of fact the only way they might comprehend what females like is via seeing their mom's occasion, and their mom is very some years older. in the event that they don't have a mom in any respect, this might substitute into lots worse, consisting of boys attempting to confirm as lots approximately females as conceivable, keen as much as now older women, and treating their girlfriends as a mom-determine.
2016-11-02 22:52:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of times for girls masterbation is thought of as bad or dirty im sure she was embarresed.
if i were u id just act like it didnt happen and just ask her if she wants to hang out. if it comes up just say your sorry and tell her she should lock her door. ans its not a big deal
god luck sounds like u love your sister
p s maybe u need to start knocking before u go in her room
2006-07-24 17:30:46 · answer #6 · answered by Sandra K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the exact same thing happened to me!!! like a week ago!!! im serious. im 13 too but my sister is 21 shes home from college right now anyways ya we were all embaressed with each other but i talked to her and we agreed it was a total accident and like just to forget it. we have a really good relationship too like we go shopping together and stuff like that. . .but last night my sister did the same thing to me on accident because she was coming to ask me if her air vent sounded like it was broken to me . . . it was broken but anyways. ya just talk to her and hopefully everything will work out. now we are even though!!!
2006-07-24 17:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she it just as embarrassed as you are. Talk to her. Just tell her you're sorry for walking in on her, a can you just forget it. She was experimenting, something you will do to when you're older. Good luck
2006-07-24 17:37:00 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like your older than 13.I'm not buying it.If it is true maybe,I don't know make a joke about it,I have no clue what to do.
2006-07-24 17:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say that I'm not up set it was weird me out a little but it find just next time knock before entering in to her room just don't say in thing stupid!!
2006-07-24 17:30:18 · answer #10 · answered by sheena w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋