this is really weird, we're just friends and I don't think I wanna be more than friends with him but why do I remember him every two seconds he's on my mind all the time, when I drive, when I shop, when I watch TV and even when I'm studying, what the hell is wrong with me? I know it's not love or a crush or anything but I don't know why this is happeneing with me, it's been almost a year now that I'm having this sort of stuff.
does that mean he's thinking of me as well? can you tell me what is that?
2006-07-24 17:23:11 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
get over it its love. you love him.
just tell him and hump
2006-08-01 05:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy, so take this as you will. A few months ago, I met this girl that I liked. We would talk every so often and after about a month, she was on my mind a lot. Everytime I wasn't around or (even when I was), she was always on my mind. She was even in my dreams a lot. I took this as a sign that I wanted to get closer and have a relationship with her. I took the step forward, and we are now happily dating and have high hopes for the future. Now, enough with the story.
I think, deep down, you have some feelings for this guy. I could be wrong, but it sure sounds like you do. I don't see any harm in maybe seeing if you do like him and see if he likes you back? I don't know how to stop the thoughts other than approaching him and seeing what's up. He may be going through the same thing. Good luck.
2006-07-25 00:29:47 · answer #2 · answered by Matt I 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you!
I experienced the same thing a few months ago with this guy... I wasn't attracted to him, but I enjoyed talking to him a lot and spending time together. I really thought we had a bond, but on the emotional level. I couldn't stop thinking about him, I was wondering what he was doing and stuff like that. My friends convinced me that I have a crush on him and that we should get together. And we did... It was kinda weird and it didn't work out. And guess what? We're not that close anymore...
If you go on that path and you start thinking you should be more than friends, you probably will be. And it might destroy your friendship, or it might be what you've always been waiting for. The nasty thing about it is you won't know unless you try. But don't let other people tell you what you should do (like I did). And ask yourself the following questions:
-Am I attracted to him?
-Can I imagine a kiss? And if yes, do I think I'd like it?
-Could we be compatible?
-What would I dislike about him in a relationship, but doesn't bother me in a friendship?
Hope this helps. I can't suggest a way to get him out of your head, because I couldn't do that either. However, if you do find one, let me know!!
2006-07-25 01:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by bird in the sky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two are spending a lot of time together and Im not just talking about what has been going on in your thoughts. My guess is that you had been seeing a lot of each other, then maybe not as much now? Or that you have increased seeing him and sharing things with him over this past year. If your thinking about him in terms of things he said, fun you had or typical friend's stuff than I wouldnt worry too much about it, your just letting your guard down more and that can be scarey for anybody. If it is more of a romance thing dancing in your head, then I would reconsider taking it to the next level. Im sure he probably does think about you as often and probably in the same way, whichever that is- but you wont know until you ask him. Good luck!
2006-07-25 00:34:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is natural; even professors, if not priests and nuns, experience what you are in. Simply you don't have better alternatives at the moment. He may be in the same boat, but it sems to me that both of you are still too young. You may elevate such a friendship a bit more. Take the first step by writing him a short poem about nature and/or anxieties in life, not a love one. For further feedback, write to me.
Din
2006-07-25 00:39:58 · answer #5 · answered by Dinha G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Great friendships can lead to romantic thoughts as friendship is the base for all love."
I had to quote this bcuz it's so true, i have been with my girlfriend now going on 2 years, but before that, we were friends, and it statred out the same way. i couldnt get her out my mind, and i wasnt sure if she felt the same way, but to my suprise she was... and now, we have a beautiful relationship....so i said all of that to say that in some cases a relationship can mess up a friendship. but in most cases, it's better to be friends first, bcuz you already know each other on a friendship level...and now your looking forward to getting to know each other on a more personal level...i wish u the best....and more than likely he feels the same way about you... it's been a year, so tell him how you feel....TAKE A CHANCE on love cuz you only live once
2006-08-01 22:26:54 · answer #6 · answered by T@J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love bug there has got to be something that has you atracted to him search it out and go with it, too much time in your hands [a song] you have the answers in you and through your actions, test the waters you dont have to go off the deep end,looks is not all love the inside of a person is important too,there is a lot more inside a human[ man or woman] than there is on the outside,example a persons can look good on the outside and be very ugly in many ways,you can be fair to medland on the outside and be very atractive on the inside, it all depends what you want or what you need,
2006-08-01 17:23:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think is not crush or love?....
what kind of toughs comes to your mind when you think about him?....Do you know if this happens to him too?...how close friend are both of you?....if this is a real, honest friendship, you could tell him about this situation and maybe laugh about it and then you could get over with that.
2006-07-25 00:34:49 · answer #8 · answered by JTB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love potion #9. It's a chemical addiction and a form of depression. It's like obsessive compulsive disorder. Your addicted to your feelings. It takes time or another relationship. Which is referred to as a rebound.
2006-07-25 04:57:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great friendships can lead to romantic thoughts as friendship is the base for all love.
2006-08-01 11:55:55 · answer #10 · answered by Caffeinated 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may think you don't like him...but maybe your subconscious thinks other wise. If you don't feel that way about( like him more then just friends) you wouldn't be thinking about every second. So be honest with yourself, think about how would you feel if he left and wasn't around..would that make you sad?
2006-08-01 17:22:08 · answer #11 · answered by jaylee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋