i got in a fight with my best friend/cousin b/c she send a very discusting photo of me to my aunt via picture message she is on vacation these days to our house and i haven't talk to her since the past two days. she hasn't even appologized...............and i am very mad.................help me please....................
2006-07-24 17:15:32 · 18 answers · asked by babe33 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
You have a right to be angry. A friend does not treat you this way. You do need to confront her about it though. Ask her why she betrayed you like this. Tell he it hurt your feeling that she could be so cruel. Tell her it made you very angry and you are STILL angry.
After you tell her off, you should not speak to her again. If she ever apologizes to you, accept it, but be wary. Don't ever trust her again. If you do, when your guard is down, she will stab you in the back again.
You need to go out with your real friends and leave her home alone. Do not have her around her friends now that you know how she really feels about you. She will probably try to sabotage your friendships if allowed to do so.
Someday down the line when she has forgotten her evil misdeed, now that would be the time to repay her. In spades. Revenge served cold is sooooo good it doesn't require any extra seasoning.
Tell your mom you do not want her in the house next summer. When you are thrown together because you are family, please ignore her.
You cannot choose your relatives but you can certainly choose your friends. Please be more careful in the future of what pictures you allow to be taken of you. And don't do disgusting things, especially in front of a camera.
2006-07-24 18:04:19 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow that is just wrong. There really isnt anything you can do other than dont let her get access to those kinds of phots and put the relationship on the back burner. Revenge will do nothing other than make things worse believe me i had a similar problem and got in trouble with the police so all you can do is avoid her or confront her and find out why and then just keep your distance i wouldnt trust her no more if i was you.
2006-07-24 17:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by eeyore_0816 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it will be hard to be around her and I am impressed that you have gotten away from them. You need to try to figure out why she did it... then after that you need to decide is your friendship something you can lose? If I was in your place I would pull her aside and talk to her... If you think she has a great reason, If it is good then take her back, but be in a safety box... and make sure she knows that trust is not there and she will need to work to get that back. And if I think she is did it to just hurt me... then tell her "I am sorry, but for what you did we can't be friends... I will still treat you with respect, even though you don't deserve it, but friendship is no longer something I am offering" Then smile turn around and walk off...
2006-07-24 17:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she think the picture was funny? Since she just shared with family, who loves you anyway, I would either just forget about it or I would get an equally bad picture of her, maybe do some artistic photo enhancing on it. Maybe put her head on a small or creepy body, something like that. You could probably get a photo program to do something like that, and have a blast doing it, and learn afew things too.
2006-07-24 17:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like the two of you are having communication problems. The two of you need to talk to each other. Find out why she sent the picture and why she is so upset. Then let her know you were very hurt by what she did to you. If she is truly your good friend she will apologize, If she doesn't apologize she is not your friend. Let her go.
2006-07-24 17:24:09 · answer #5 · answered by Tami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having trouble understanding exactly what you are asking, however, if I got this right.... She is staying at your house, and you are not speaking to her because of what she did, and she hasn't apologized. Is that correct? If so, she is a guest in your house. Take her off to the side, have a talk with her, and if that doesn't help, ask her to leave. She shouldn't disrespect you in your own home!!
2006-07-24 17:21:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why were you in a position to have a disgusting photo taken of you? Maybe you are mad at yourself? And is she hasn't apologized, then she doesn't care, so maybe it is the end of this so called "friendship" as a real friend wouldn't hurt you like that.
2006-07-24 17:19:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so let me get this strait you got in a figt with your cousin because she sent a picture ( thats discusing) to your aunt? why would she do that? thats really mean! what i say to do is NOT get revenge! talk to her about it and tell her she shouldnt of done it...if you know your aunts e-mail and p/w try to delete it or try to figure out a way to NOT let her see it! but the deal with your cousin tell her that you want respect and if you dont repect me then i cant give you repect...but if worst come to worst kill her with kind ness if that doesnt work REVENGE as plan c.....sorry thats the best answer i have...sorry if it doesnt help!
2006-07-24 17:25:49 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your cousin about what she did. What she did wasn't acceptable, but you need to forgive her and move on with your life. Forgiving her doesn't mean you let her off the hook and it doesn't mean that you have to be best friends with her - it just means you are acknowledging the situation and are moving on.
What she did wasn't a charicteristic of a best friend. It was a charicteristic of a spiteful, angry person who wanted to hurt you.
You should also talk to your aunt about what happened and apologize that she had to see what she did. Explain what happened and that your cousin sent it to her to get back at you.
2006-07-24 17:19:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you sat down and talked to her about it??
Ask her why she did it, try not to get into an arguement and try not to raise your voice.
When everything is calm and said carefully with good communication, more can be said.
Are you sure she did it? If so did you do something that could have caused her to do it?
Revenge is NOT the best way to fix anything. Map out the questions you will ask first, write them all down so you dont forget.
And please please try not to make it into a fight or argument then it all would have been for nothing. And please dont do anything in revenge.
Good luck!!
2006-07-24 17:22:59 · answer #10 · answered by Branwen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋