We had dinner at his parent place. Normally, after dinner, less than 5minutes, we will leave and return home. But last night, they stay and talked for long time. But I wan to go back take shower. he had taken his at his parent home le. I try to hint to him that but none of them take notice of me. soon, I got very angry and show my "Black" face to them. now my hubby is angry with me, saying I dun respect him. But I already apologise and explain to him. However, He dun accept. He sound as if he wan a break off.
What should I do?
2006-07-24 16:41:19 · 12 answers · asked by ping_er_18 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I went to his parent house right after work to help with cooking of dinner. Everytime, after dinner, he was the one who say want to leave early. Initially, I told him, It not nice to leave immediately after dinner. But he does not bother.
2006-07-24 17:03:11 · update #1
its ok and alright, no doubt its a bit out of place for good manners...lol.
its a small lover quarell...forgive and forget...kiss and make up.
learnt from the experience and not repeat it, thats the most important part.
seems you're tired with work and helping out and expecting to be home early and hubby is engrossed with a topic. both should have compromised but...being tired, you're short tempered and he being in his " kingdom" is so comfortable.
still a small matter, remember, its takes one to give way and the other to accept...all will be fine.
kiss and make up? there's a long way to go and tons to learn and many quarells to face...lol.
a small matter...make up?
2006-07-24 17:39:05 · answer #1 · answered by dream_drifter05 3 · 8⤊ 3⤋
That is a mistake that I also commonly make. I hold off on speaking my mind when I am calm, hoping that my wife will figure things out for herself, & save me from being the "Bad Guy" by bringing it up 1st. And when that doesn't work, I get more & more angry, until I explode, & then there's a fight. All along, if I had discussed things with her when we are both calm I could have avoided a blow-up. Wait a little longer, & appologize again when he is ready to accept it. He's just still mad at you at the moment. You blew up at him at the time because the evening didn't progress according to your pre-determined expectations. Which is understandable since he kind of changed the routine without bringing you on board beforehand. That doesn't excuse you boiling over like you did though, & that's why you need to appologize again. This probably isn't the only issue you guys need to work on, but start with this one & work out that you will share changes in routine with each other in the future.
2006-07-24 17:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up. If he's your husband you have to love his family too. You are selfish for acting that way and you need to get over youself and remember there isn't just you and him. Family is important and if you can't handle having a man who loves his family, you don't deserve him.
Tell your hubby you thought about what you did and admit you were selfish. Let him cool off for a few days and the next time you visit his family, don't be in such a hurry to leave. Show some respect for your inlaws and your hubby will respect you for it.
2006-07-24 16:56:11 · answer #3 · answered by whatzerface 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because she was frustrated and probably didnt handle her anger in the best fasion.. its no reason to call her petty or selfish. im sure she does respect her husband and likes his parents. we all make mistakes and let our tempers get the best of us. just let your husband calm down. dont apologize over and over while he's still mad. let it blow over a bit. just next time before you go to dinner ask him if yall will be staying for a chat because if so then you would like to do whatever you might need to do before you go so that you will be able to enjoy the time over at his parents house without being distracted. THEN tell him again that you're very sorry and embarrassed about being rude. im sure he'll be more accepting then. you'll be okay girl. i dont think he wants to break it off. maybe he hadnt ever see you act like that before. we all have bad days. good luck!
2006-07-24 16:55:42 · answer #4 · answered by a_chatham926 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beg him to forgive you. Don't ever try to come between a man and his family. It is rude and it only makes you seem petty and selfish and childish and it embarrasses the crap out of him when you do that. Just because he married you doesn't mean he doesn't have a family anymore!!!
P.S. You should probably have taken a shower before you left home!
2006-07-24 16:49:02 · answer #5 · answered by Drill Sergeant J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are just newly married. Don't think off such thing when you just get married. Since you have already show your black face in front of his family already, how you expect him to forgive you.Don't mentioned this thing to him for the time being and once he cooled down, then apologised to him. he will accept your apology.
2006-07-24 18:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hubby wants to break it off or be angry over just 1 nite of bad manners from you then he also needs to grow up.. we all, and I mean all get cranky and act up at times and use bad judgment... explain to him ONE more time and say I am sorry ONE more time, to him and his parents, and then also explain that this will be the LAST time for appologies , and YOU are moving on and letting it go... that you hope they can do the same, if NOT then the problem is ALL theirs NOT YOURS..... tell them that NO disrespect was meant but that you wanted a shower and you were tired and just ready to go...... PERIOD.... God bless
2006-07-24 16:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 04:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill out and learn some manners...we don't always get our way, and you acted like a spoiled brat. You offended his parents..not nice, no matter how you look at it. This will blow over, but don't forget your manners the next time.
2006-07-24 16:45:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, if he wants to end it after only 2 months then he's not worth it. You explained it to him, and apologized. You don't need to do anything else, but try to not to be impatient, and watch your manners.
2006-07-24 16:55:47 · answer #10 · answered by Xenjn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋