before i went to sleep i told my nosy man not to read my journal an he did!do i have right to be mad at him for reading my personal things even tho i told him a 100 times not to ,an he did it plenty of times before?
2006-07-24 16:17:56 · 48 answers · asked by mizz_butta 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes
2006-07-24 16:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by SugarKitty25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have a right to be mad, but not at your "nosy man." Why did he have access to your journal. Evidently, you are writing things in your journal that you want him to know. The first time he violated your privacy should have been a clear indicator to you that something was wrong. Seriously, I think that you are playing mind games and that you may even be getting a kick out of the attention. If you really didn't want him to pry through your personal things, you would put it in a secure location.
2006-07-24 16:22:20 · answer #2 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess I'm odd. If you're "together" you shouldn't be having to HIDE anything. But that doesn't mean that you can't keep some things to yourself. It means both.. It means you share most everything, but neither of you should be 'snooping' either.
However, in the marriage I'm in.. everything is in the open. There is no hiding of anything. We're an odd couple though. Not most are like us. We also have a budget and live by a code. We probably fit into maybe 1/2 of 1/2 of 1/2 of 1 percent of such people like us on this planet.
What you need is an agreement. Just coz you asked him to do something doesn't mean he's agreeing to it. Ask him if he agrees to leave your personal writings alone. And ask him what he feels is just punishment (what are the consequences) if he breaks the agreement - if you don't like his lame azz response, then dare him with your own punishment. If he can't handle it, then ask him to make up another consequence and keep naming some until you agree to one.
If he won't work with you in this manner, you should have somebody different in your life. It's too short and today is only today for the rest of the day. Then it's over.
2006-07-24 16:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by game buddee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have every right to be mad. You are entitled to your privacy whether your with someone or not. He got curious and wanted to know why it was you were telling him not to read it. He probably thought you were hiding something from him. But You have to tell him to respect your privacy cause if he continues to do that he'll lose your trust completely. If he continues to do it buy another journal and write stuff about him or just stupid stuff that would make him regret reading it. And then you can hide your other journal and he'll be reading the one he thinks your writing in. Good Luck!
2006-07-24 16:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by babieshay27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes in deed boo! You have all the right in the world to be mad! That is getting into your private items. If he were to turn the situation around, then he would be highly pissed off!! A journal is something that is sacred, and meant for ONE, and only ONE, unless you want to make it public! I would sit him down and tell him that he disrespected you and you will not put up with it. There was nothing in that journal for him to see. He needs to learn some respect! Good LucK!
2006-07-24 16:22:58 · answer #5 · answered by femaleballa23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Though you have the right to be mad, look at yourself first - having known that he did it plenty of times either you should have kept it our of reach or made a plain journal with no private things to ponder. Beloved ones some times stretch out beyond limits just to ensure they are safe and secure and may be with no other bad intend.. Correct yourself first and give him a last chance too.
2006-07-24 20:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by kissmo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, anybody has the right to establish boundaries and limits in a relationship, be it your diary or whatever. So you need to find a place to lock you journal up so he can't ge at it. Sounds like he is the jealous-possessive type and could be a problem down the road. Suggest you use the word "angry" rather than "mad", though.
2006-07-24 16:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by hellbent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should be mad. Even though you are together you still need some privacy and he violated that. Is it a trust issue that he reads your journal? Talk to him about it and then hide your journal better next time.
2006-07-24 16:20:04 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, you have a right to be upset. Having your personal space and boundaries in a relationship is vital. Maybe your man is feeling insecure, as if you are keeping secrets. If you don't want him reading your journal, then maybe you should have a special place to store it that he doesn't know about. I would be extremely upset if my husband/boyfriend or "man" went against my personal wishes and broke trust issues. You have every right to be upset.
2006-07-24 16:20:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of like having a dog in the home that is not well trained and when we leave things laying around that they are not supposed to have we can not punish them for being "naughty" and getting into it just because we said no. Some things we should keep put up high for good reason.
2006-07-24 16:24:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well is it sooo important what ur writing in your journal and does he do the same things to you if you said yeah for all of them you have the right to be mad
2006-07-24 16:20:45 · answer #11 · answered by amber<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋