I am getting a divorce.. How do I not go crazy thinking of him with someone else?

Question

We have been married almost 7 years. I love him alot but he has done something I cannot forgive. However I know when he finds someone else It will drive me insane. I dont wanna be like that how can I not think about it.

I know I am going need counseling but I cant afford it.

Ok well first off in response to dragonfire. I am the one divorcing him he is not divorcing me. The reason is because I found out he was text messaging a girl (and I do mean girl behind my back) over 200 times in 5 days!

I asked him to stop and he didn't. He says they are just friends. I say he has not business being friends with her. I feel if me and his kids were more important he would have stopped but he didnt.

It is driving me crazy that they may actually get together. I am suppose to start school in August but now I dont know if I can. I have 2 small kids to support and no help.

Answer 1

Huh, that is a tough one...I don't think I could handle it either...I'm sorry to hear that, but you need to really concentrate on your family and friends, and children the most if you have any...If you put most of your concentration on your kids, you will eventually know that what you did was in there best interest, I hope anyway...You will always have that pang in your heart whenever you see or think about him, but only time heals...hope this helps a little

Answer 2

So now he thinks he could have his cake and devour it too. Life does not paintings that approach. You had been clever submitting divorce within the first situation. Don't allow him run over you anymore. Your youngsters are ancient adequate to receive whats happening. I'm certain they realize the situations at the back of the divorce. Do now not positioned something within the storage. Make him get the hell out. He has no proper to retain his crap. Make him have an understanding of. Don't bow down.

Answer 3

If you are worried about your soon to be ex being with someone else, then maybe you should re-evaluate your feelings for him, maybe you are still in love with him and should think about marriage counseling instead, but if it's something that cannot ever be unforgiven and it's that serious still go to counseling, but just remember he will be with someone else after a while, but just think of the horrible things or thing he has done to you, and maybe the feelings will fade away.

Answer 4

Time will heal all wounds, even the deepest. If your relationship is beyond salvaging, you need to put yourself in the mindset that the best is yet to come in your life. Try to remember your marrige for the good in it, not dwelling on the past. This will only increase your feelings of resentment towards your soon to be ex and his life. Start living yours. When its all good, you won't care what's going on in his. And even when it's all bad, seek out those things that will remind you of maybe that one reason you're better off than the next person.

Answer 5

First of all, maybe you can forgive him if he is asking for forgiveness. If he is not asking..... The only way you can start to not think about it is to not talk about it too much. Try to surround yourself with positive thoughts 24x7 and pray. Only time will help you through this storm. Once "you" meet someone else than you not be thinking of him so much. If you really love him, only falling out of love will work for you and again that takes time.

Answer 6

I just recently got a divorce and after the pain and the disappointment I suffered with my husband, I really don't care if he dates someone else. If he marries someone else, it wouldn't bother me. It sounds cold, but I really loved my husband. He betrayed my trust and left me alone. Of course, I suffered greatly in the beginning, but time ultimately began to heal the wounds. I still miss him sometimes, but I have learned to understand that life does go on. I have found something else to occupy my time. Sweetie, be strong. You'll get there.

Answer 7

Yes you can if you go to the clinics that offer it based on your salary, because you will need it. As far as his being with some one else, be prepared because he's going to do this as soon as you let go. Men are not like females, and don't have any sympathy about how you deal with the situation. It's all about their being happy, especially if you are the one who gets the divorce without their consent. They go out their way to make you suffer.

Answer 8

you have no sense of self
you do not see yourself as desirable by others and thus you are foolishly locked into him
in reality you never loved him as true love NEVER sacrifices oneself esteem for the sake of companionship
the fact hat he will find another have sex with her and possibly will a a new and imporved life is reality
you lack a life on your own hence the need for possesing him
it was right he divorced you for waht ever reason
as no one want's to be with a possesive women

Answer 9

Every time you look in the mirror say to yourself, "I am beautiful and wonderful and deserve the best man for me. One who will love me enough to not put me in harms way. I am worthy of a lover I can trust!" Hope that helps!!! So sorry about your loss but you are doing the right thing!!!

Answer 10

whatever you are feeling men usually feel ten times worse... they just keep it to themself...
stay strong and keep focused on what you want in life
be the best person you can be and one day you will find someone that truly deserves you
if he has done wrong by you there is no way he will ever be truly happy again... he has to live with the guilt, which one day will bite him in his butt
stay strong and think about what you are going to do in life... force your self to stop thinking about him and only abou tyou... he is not worth it
all the best