Every time he has a boyfriend I get totally ignored! Every time he does not have one he spends most of his time with me.
Even when he is spending time with me, I feel really depressed, because I know that soon I will not see him for a long time, because he will be ignoring me! :'-(
I am kind of selfish, but I wish I had him all to myself.
2006-07-24 15:50:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Some people are like that. They get into a relationship and suddenly disappear out of your life. It is because they want to spend every waking moment with their new flame. Perfectly understandable, but hard on the friend left behind. It seems to be bothering you a lot, so I would suggest that you have a talk with him and explain that you understand that he has a new love, but that you feel hurt and left out because you don't get to spend time with him anymore. He probably doesn't even realise that he's doing it. If you talk to him in a gentle, nonaccusing manner, it may wake him up and he will realise that he stands a chance of losing a good friend due to carelessness.
On the other hand, it sounds like you are maybe interested in him in a "more than just friends" kinda way. If that is the case, then let him know. Take a chance and hopefully he will appreciate how much you care for him.
Good luck.
2006-07-24 18:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by Kalika 2 · 16⤊ 3⤋
This happens a lot -- friends get ignored during romantic interludes when the friend is deeply involved with someone new. You need to express your feelings and make sure your friend will give you some time with him. There's no reason to settle for being ignored and for your friend to not do anything with you.
Likewise, you need to accept that the boyfriend will take over as main interest until it flames out. IN mature relationships, you can have a boyfriend AND a friend and neither feels slighted.
2006-07-24 15:55:11 · answer #2 · answered by DD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling he is your friend not your lover.He owes u nothing as u know, in the way of loyalty, in sitting home with you or whatever.Show him the same courtesy and compassion that he shows you.There comes a time and usually and unfortunately it comes to late though,when u learn to enjoy your own company.You sound desperate in the sense you cannot be alone,what demons haunt you when your alone?Just take it easy,and who knows,when he sees that you are not that concerned over what he is doing,you all ways want what you can't have!! If someone grovels after me,I feel sick they are so pathetic.See we don't realize how pathetic we become and a lot of us have been there your not alone with that one !! good luck honey.
2006-07-24 15:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by fairie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just the way things go. I'm taking that you don't have anyone special in your life and that's why you feel that way.
It's hard to please two people, most times the person who is just the "friend" takes the backburner, when the friend gets dumped or breaks up with their partner that's when they want to spend more time with their best bud.
I think you need to find someone special for yourself then it won't bother you as much. Or do you like him yourself???
2006-07-24 15:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 22:23:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with stowchick01! When he's away just send text messages to feel more secure for the moment...
2006-07-24 15:57:31 · answer #6 · answered by Ace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new friend, or your own boyfriend, and stop relying on this guy for your happiness.
2006-07-24 15:55:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should find yourself a girlfriend/boyfriend? Good luck!!!
2006-07-24 15:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by Ruby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have more feelings for him than you think? See if he feels the same?
2006-07-24 15:53:14 · answer #9 · answered by stowchick01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude! your acting like a chick or your gay with this jealousy stuff.
2006-07-24 15:55:41 · answer #10 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋