My wife has express the urge to go to the Navy. She says she would want us all to go (move ) where ever she is stationed. I would possibly do this but I don't think it would be fair to put the household finances completely on her and does the military pay that much? I would have to leave my well paying job that I just started about 4 months ago. What do you guys think.........thanks
2006-07-24 15:50:26 · 15 answers · asked by Atypical Marvel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi worried J... I served in the military. I loved it, but its not for every one. Is this something your wife just came home one day and said I want to enlist in the navy... or has she always thought about going in?
Pros... steady pay. extra for housing and food. medical dental and life insurance. close nit community that looks out for each other. Experiences of a life time. help going to college, job training
Cons... could be deployed. always taking orders for others(any job), moving from family, dressing like every body else for work.
talk about it... ask advise from long time friends and close family. Pray about it. and then together decide whats best for your family. whats the right choice for you and your wife.
Good luck... and my prayers are with you both.
2006-07-24 16:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by concerned mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it something she's always had the desire to do? A lifelong dream perhaps? If it is extremely important for her to achieve this, then you need to decide if you want and can make it happen for her. I understand your apprehension about the move and finances. It would be a hard choice for any family to make. Do you have kids that would have to make the move, also?
If there are no kids, then I would definitely consider it. She will be in basic training for around 12 weeks, and then after that she will be stationed somewhere for whatever training she would choose to receive in the Navy. In that time you could be looking for a new job in that area, and get things settled where you currently live, and getting everything in order. The pay in the military depends on what type of training, but one perk is that you will have all the medical and dental coverage you'll need.
Good luck with whatever you decide. I think anything is possible and can be overcome with the right amount of determination and love.
2006-07-24 16:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by tamitones1978 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Military families have it hard from what I understand, financially and emotionally. Navy families, with extended deployments at sea have an especially hard time. The children who were acustomed to seeing their parent everyday will have to cope with an absentee parent for up to 6 months at a time. The pay is horrible for enlisted. Then there's the ugly side. Fewer women are onboard a ship than men. People get lonely. Sometimes they cheat. It's an ugly truth. I wish you the best of luck in this.
2006-07-24 15:59:17 · answer #3 · answered by practical thinking 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Indeed the better halves who're trustworthy to their husbands after they pass off for elevated intervals of time are to be extremely recommended. The vulnerable ones will cheat on their husbands after they get lonely. God bless each the navy husbands/better halves and their carrier for his or her nation. And do not pay attention to the superliberal democrats - the navy is an excessively noble group and the ones worried are nice persons. I am very completely satisfied to peer that now not all ladies are slutty, "convenient" ladies and that a few nonetheless take relationships critically critical.
2016-08-28 18:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly the military isn't a place for no women. Just let her know that you care for her and that for one yuo would miss her and then you would be worried about the enviornment that she would be surounded in and that you wish that she could just think of another job to take that isn't so far away. Don'tlet her go I mean think of the guys that will be hitting on her when she gets there I mean there away from there friends and girlfriends I mean who knows what could happen. But talk to her about it and let her know that you think that it isn't a good idea be honest with her let her know you love her to much to let her go like that.
2006-07-24 15:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by Charissa H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty tough decision.Once u get into the military u cant get out easily unless ur kicked out.
Look at other poosiblities . Last choice to join the Force for what ever Reasons.......
2006-07-24 15:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it's a good move to make. It really isn't fair to uproot the whole family to satisfy her. She has to realize that whatever she does affects the whole family, not just her. You need to sit down with her and think about the good and the bad that would go along with her doing this.
2006-07-24 15:54:13 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not join the military because what's going on today and snice you started new job and it paids well and they can send somewhere you can get out,
2006-07-24 15:59:14 · answer #8 · answered by cmaymay26facaringperson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UMM as a military wife I would say no..Unless you want her on a ship 6mo out of the year..
2006-07-24 16:03:43 · answer #9 · answered by Heather b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you truly love her you will support her decision and tell her your concerns. let her know that your not opposed to her urge to go into the military, but you love her enough to want her to be safe.
2006-07-24 16:00:34 · answer #10 · answered by Chuck M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋