My sister is 15 with a daughter, my mom feels that my sister let her down, and now their is pressure on me to be the "good child", but I'm a lesbian, and coming out to her is becoming more difficult each day. I can't keep lying to her, but I don't want to let her down. What should I do?
2006-07-24 15:24:27 · 8 answers · asked by Joyce N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just go up and tell her mom you may be mad or angry when you hear this but this is the way i am i am srry to tell you mother i lez thats all i can say and thats how i am
2006-07-24 15:29:33 · answer #1 · answered by Mira 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister and you are two different people. Also, there is nothing to be ashamed of by being a lesbian. An estimated 7-10% of all women are lesbians.
Perhaps your mother is upset with your sister for becoming pregnant so young. But your news is not anything like that.
Your mom loves you, and she will understand. She will be there for you, no matter what. She may be emotional at first, but then she will be able to help you better, once she understands more about who you are.
By lying, or deceiving, you create a greater divide between you and your mom. This causes you anxiety, and eventually, you will need to lie to her in order to live your life, and that will cause greater problems.
If you just tell her, then you will both be able to go back to being on track with being open and honest with one another, and she will understand better how to help you and be there for you.
2006-08-01 23:06:02 · answer #2 · answered by Atom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how old you are. Make sure that this is not a phase you are going through. If you are not into guys at all, then wait for the right time. There should be no rush in telling her unless you find a reason to have to tell her now. If you have an open communication with your mom, start asking her how she feels about this sort of thing. Just bring up the topic in an occasional conversation and see how she reacts to it. This is not an easy thing to reveal to a parent, but you will be surprised. We as parents love our children regardless. Love for our children is unconditional. So even though she may be disappointed at first, she will grow used to it, as long as it is done in good taste and low key. But wait, you will know when the time is right. If there is no rush, then why break it to her now.
2006-07-24 22:33:00 · answer #3 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you love your children, you love them, all of them. A mother knows her daughter, it may not come as a real surprise to her. Yes, she may take a moment or two but in the end she will see you for her daughter. When our daughter was 12 there was a rumor at school that she was a lesbian. Neither of us were very upset by it, all we told her was "we love you. We want you to love and know yourself, whoever that is".
Good luck when you do tell your Mom that she has a terrific daughter who happens to be a lesbian. God made you and she doesn't waste her time making junk!
2006-07-24 23:16:15 · answer #4 · answered by Jane B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all of us can live up to our parents "standards." Go ahead and tell her with 100% confidence, and if she doesn't accept it, then that's her own problem/ignorance. Don't ever feel guilty about who you are, no matter how much people might put you down. As long as you have a good group of supportive friends, everything will be okay.
2006-07-24 22:33:50 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with her at the kitchen tabl ewith a couple of cups of coffee and calmly tell her that you're gay. If she can't accepct that I don't know what to tell you.
2006-07-25 01:57:00 · answer #6 · answered by Toni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with her you dont wanna keep lying forever. but definitely if she's a good mother she wont judge you and she'll love you no matter what so just tell her and sooner or later she'll get over it.
2006-07-24 22:34:21 · answer #7 · answered by candygirlrw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure in the end she'll prefer you were honest. There's nothing wrong with being a homosexual, so just let her know how you feel.
2006-07-24 22:29:52 · answer #8 · answered by Pearly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋