My best friend and I used to date but we broke up because of various trivial reasons mostly due to our age and where we are in our lives now. Anyway we retain a friendship though a bit strained and after we broke up he has been smoking the Mary Jane where as he wasn't before. He tells me that he doesn't do it often but I'm still worried about him and let him know that he's being an idiot for doing it almost everytime we speak. I do love the boy and have for years as a friend and as more but things are so messed up with us it just seems that maybe arguing over his life choices isn't worth it because it's been taking a toll on me mentally and physically and he finds it greatly annoying. Am I crazy in wanting to look out for him or should I let it go and have him learn on his own?
2006-07-24 15:10:24 · 6 answers · asked by Layla 2 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
Seems to me babes that ur still in love with him and ur just looking for an excuse to stay in his life, maybe you need him more than you think, maybe you dont? but thats just me thinking out loud...they say if you love something/someone that much you gotta let it go, and if it comes back to you then.....you kno the rest babes!!!
2006-07-24 15:16:55 · answer #1 · answered by ChanteC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have enough problems of your own. You do not need other peoples problems pulling you down. As we go through life people change for better or worse. He may be old enough to know what he is doing. All you can do is what you have done, advise him of the dangers he is experiencing. He has his free will to change for the better or sink. He has the choice. Take care and God bless.
2006-07-24 22:20:35 · answer #2 · answered by KonSengWon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still a good friend to be so concerned for his welfare - but be glad it is only weed, and not something really dangerous (heroin, crack, excessive alcohol, steroids, meth, etc.).
You probably have been educated to think of pot as the "gateway drug," but many, many people use marijuana to help with eating disorders, anxiety, aggression, critical illnesses, etc.
They do say that today's pot is about 20 times stronger than the pot of the 1960s, and that some people have needed to get treatment to stop - but it remains a fact that marijuana is safer than alcohol and tobacco.
2006-07-24 22:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by Terri C. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great that you care, but it looks like you already know the answer to your question. If it's upsetting you mentally and physically then you will have to care for him from a distance. I think all you can do is let him know that you care like you have but it's all up to him to stop. You'll go crazy worrying about it. I wonder if he tells you about his habit to intentionally upset you. Dunno.
2006-07-24 22:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by toriphile4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit trying to fix and control him. He's a big boy and will learn from him own mistakes.
2006-07-24 22:23:57 · answer #5 · answered by ndmagicman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel
2006-07-24 22:19:01 · answer #6 · answered by rockupu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋