We've been on for a few months but he has this friend who he sees and chats with everything and anything which makes me feel so uncomfortable. I guess I'm jealous. I know I'm a sensible but not a jealous person but this situation is driving me insane. It's so hard to admit I'm jealous of the girl but what could I do? I have discussed this with my BF in several occassions sometimes, we ended fighting. He always defend her and keeps in contact with her. I did not tell him to not get in touch with her anymore but do you think I should? They've been friends before we met. I feel guilty if their friendship would end just because of me. I think it's not my decision to do that but his. I also think that the woman should back off since he knows that her friend has a GF now. I don't know what to do and think.. help.
2006-07-24 15:05:12 · 11 answers · asked by yodge_123 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
wake up - she is moving in on your relationship... either that or she is making her PRIOR claim to him valid by continuing to press him for favors (a sign that she still has him)
and if he willingly jumps to her every whim - he digs her, bottom line.
2006-07-24 15:12:07 · answer #1 · answered by AslanMusic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to introduce you to this girl. If he will not do it or behaves as if he is uncomfortable in the presence of both of you at the same time, you will know that this girl is a real threat to your relationship. If she is really just a friend, she can become your friend too. However, if you cannot befriend this girl, and your boyfriend still insists on talking to her intimately, tell him you are leaving him because you are not going to take a second seat behind another woman in his life. Then find someone else who understands that he cannot "have his cake and eat it too".
2006-07-24 15:17:29 · answer #2 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but if i was you i would scared. I think you should tell him to reduce his interaction with the girl, if he refuses to do so. Break it up. I am telling you this from many instances i have witnessed. Most of the time two people of the opposite sex without blood relation don't just stay friends there is always something going on. I think you should think about it thoroughly and take what action that is best for you. I hope everything turns up okay.
Good luck.
2006-07-24 15:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by Floating on air. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men and women have a right to have friends of the opposite sex. Your bf has other firends, and if you insist on making him choose, he very well might choose a long time friend over a relationship.
This just happened to my son, and it happened just like that. He has a female friend that is like a sister to him. The gf was jealous and ridiculous over it, and they didn't even live close to each other! The friend is even married! You need to get a grip and be accepting that he has a life.
2006-07-24 15:09:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say because if he wanted to be with her then he would of before you came along. If he's open about his friendship that's also hard to decide. I would say that you guys should meet and then you can see how they act around each other. If nothing works then beat the crap out of her till she's too scared or injured to communicate,if you lose him, oh well! He was not worth it anyways and then you'll feel better just knowing you beat the crap out of her. Who's the boss? YOU ARE and don't you forget it!!!!
2006-07-24 15:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by blondearies123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only she will know how to do it! Or she could drop a few hints that she wants to be proposed to, and if he says again that he isnt ready to settle down it saves here the humilitation of getting a "not just yet" answer. Me and my husband decided mutually. No proposal! Sitting in bed and talking about weddings and he said to me "I think we should get married?" and i agreed. It was as simple as that for me. Maybe she could try this? So when the kids ask she can say there was no proposal rather than "I proposed to him" ?? Hope ive helped.
2016-03-27 05:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand the situation but if it is disturbing your relationship, be frank enough to give you time instead of his friend.
2006-07-24 15:09:39 · answer #7 · answered by FRAGINAL, JTM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for you it would be good to end the relationship for he willnot stop his friendship and jelousy is very poisenous to ones emotions and sometimes health
2006-07-24 15:09:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how it bothers you and ask him to tell her to stop calling. If he refuses, then find someone else.
2006-07-24 15:07:43 · answer #9 · answered by NC_Pianist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he defends her? Sweetie, you need a new boyfriend. Yours is already taken.
2006-07-24 15:10:11 · answer #10 · answered by sangellai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋