okay well last night I went to this thing called movie night with my cousin and there were guys and girls there, and my cousin is only 12 and she kept cussing! and the guys there were like talking about sex a lot and everyone was playing sharaids and they kept acting out really bad things like to do with sex, and everyone was only twelve! and my cousin kept lying to my aunt about it and she acts like such a good girl around family but cusses and stuff around friends. what do I do???????
2006-07-24 14:17:44 · 20 answers · asked by <33xoxo 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
yeah I love her and we are only 4 days apart and her dad died when she was like 6 or 7....
2006-07-24 14:29:53 · update #1
YOU DON'T DO ANYTHING LET HER DO WHAT SHE WANTS ITS JUST A FAZE SHE'LL GROW OUT OF IT BUT IF YOU TELL ON HER YOU'LL LOSE A COUSIIN AND A FRIEND
2006-07-24 14:22:27 · answer #1 · answered by SXXINEZZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 one she is only 12 and that's when i started to cuss a lot but when i turned 13 going on 14 i didn't really cuss as much. So i do think u should tell your aunt or someone in your family but if you don't want ur cousin 2 no then just ask ur aunt or who ever u tell not 2 tell her you toll.Just 2 sum it up its pretty much a phase.
2006-07-24 14:37:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is only 12 and acting out sexually there is a chance she has been abused, or at very least is part of some behavior that is way out of her league. If you think her parents are pretty good people I would talk to them.
You might think they would freak out and start being too strict or be mad at you. Most likely they won't. They will be really happy you brought her behavior to their attention.
Just tell them your concerns, and how you have seen her acting. Try not to be embarrassed. They are grownups and know about a lot worse things. If it is easier for you talk to just the mother.
If you don't think you can talk to her parents, talk to the nurse at her school. If you go to the same school just stop in. You will get a note to excuse you from class. If you don't you should be able to call the school and ask the secretary to be transferred. Don't immediately suggest she could be abused. Just tell the nurse about her behavior and how you are worried about it because she is so young. The nurse or a school counselor will talk to your cousin and should be able to get to the bottom of the behavior.
Believe me you will be doing her a big favor. A lot of people who are young don't even know how to ask for help. They are just acting out behavior that someone has "groomed" them to do. It is like they are a puppet. She needs help. You might be the only one who knows.
God bless you and keep you.
2006-07-24 14:27:09 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal Violet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT RAT HER OUT!!!! she will hate you for the rest of her life, and her mom will tell your mom what they did there and you will never be able to go again and you will be grounded for a long time for taking her to something like that. I say that you just relax and confront her and ask her which side is the real her. If she says she is just trying to be cool tell her that people are i making friends with a totally different person, not her. If it is because she doesnt want to be in trouble for being herself, tell her that she needs to talk o her mom about what she is like now, not how she was 5 years ago and tell her that she has changed and that she is growing up and cant be an angel forever. glad i could help.
tori
2006-07-26 13:07:49 · answer #4 · answered by need some advice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do anything except ask your cousin if she has ever had sex and if she answers it and doesn't look like she is telling the truth then she probably has and then if she looks like she is telling the truth then just stay out of it...it is probably just one of her phases that most pre-teen/teens goes through...BUT if she looks like she is lying then I would tell her mom because she could possibly have some sort of disease in her and not even know about those things and if you truely love her then you will tell your aunt...
GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-07-24 14:55:37 · answer #5 · answered by Caitlyn B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the harm in knowing what sex is. Being informed is being able to keep yourself safe. Its her vocabulary let her speak however she wants to. If your not comfortable with it dont hang out with her when she has friend arround. Whatever you do dont tell ur family its like the worst idea, it will just get her in trouble and make her mad at you. She wont stop what she's doing she just wont want you arround anymore.
2006-07-24 14:41:39 · answer #6 · answered by SexyLilChick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit being such a snotty little prude, or you'll grow up to be like Edna Bambrick!
2006-07-24 14:23:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her about it not her mom either, i didnt have my dad in my life growing up and around the same age as her i started acting tuff, anyways when my uncle found out he told me about how disappounted he was in me and it made me realize that that wasnt me i wasnt what i was trying to be, he didnt tell my mom he trusted me and i always cared about our relationship and that just made me and him closer, till this day he is still my fav. uncle and i go and stay with him for 2 months during every summer still.
2006-07-25 06:38:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're worried about her and think that she's in some sort of endanger or being badly influence then I guess you can tell her mother or father about it. But if you're just trying to rat on her to ruin her so called "good girl" image then just leave it alone.
2006-07-24 14:28:18 · answer #9 · answered by Faye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur aunt and stuff someone needs to confront her parents about what she is doing cause i bet she having sex already and she is at risk for pregnancy and stds.
2006-07-24 14:21:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DROP HER LIKE A HOY POTATO!!! She isn't your type of people you want to hang around right now. I don't need to answer this question as you already have
2006-07-24 14:31:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋