Adoption...should..........................?

Question

should a mother and child reunited after a child given up for adoption turns of legal age??Is it right for a birth mother to search for her child that was gvien up ...once he is of legal age??

Answer 1

I think that should be up to the child! As far as the birth mother looking for the child-I personally think it is a bad idea. I understand the feeling of loss yet the birth-mother should understand that it is the child's choice if he/she wishes to contact the birth-mother. When the child was born the mother made the best choice she could which was to give the child to a family. by contacting the child out of the blue it may cause major life disruptions and hardships (emotionally). I assume since the originally intent was made unselfishly for good intents, then the birth-mother would not want to cause hurt unintentionally. Hope that helps you can email if like.

Answer 2

It depends on the situation. Perhaps the parent still doesn't want to be reunited. If a biological parentt searches for the child, she should keep the mindset that she is no longer this child's "parent" in terms of she didn't raise this child, someone else did. It may be difficult for the parents to have this new person in their child's life. They may feel threatened--it is a natural response. Handled the right way, there is no reason a biological parent and their child can't have a good relationship as adults. It's just really important that the biological parent not come into this adult child's life thinking they can be a "parent"--this person already has parents.

Answer 3

I don't see anything wrong with it. Firstly, I think the birth mother should contact the adopted parents if it's at all possible. They may not have told the child that he/she was adopted, so imagine someone out of the blue coming up to you and claiming to be your parent. I don't think the biological parent should expect a whole lot out of it. Many people either are glad their parent found them, or act out against them for giving him/her up. Also, even if they have the same blood, they are still strangers towards one another.
~Take Care~

Answer 4

There are websites that the biological family can release their information on. If the adopted child begins looking, the agencies refer them to these sights. Let the adopted child look for the biological family. You might shock someone into hatred if they never knew. Good luck and God bless!

Answer 5

Because I have adopted two beautiful girls, I am inclined to say without hesitation....NO, NO, NO!

Not unless there is some major reason, such as a medical need, to do so.

I have given my life to my girls, and if their drug addicted mother ever cleans up her act and wants to come play 'mommy' I will fight against it.

**I am sick to death of women who toss their kids away until they are grown and THEN want to cry about how sorry they are for what they did.**

I've watched TV shows that reunite those parents with their children, and I resent it very much. Where the heck were they when the baby they gave away needed to be fed, clothed, and last but not least...loved?

My anger is really based on the fact that I love my daughters, they are mine, I would give my life for them, and while I want to make them happy, I hope I am never faced with the issue of them wanting to go meet their birth mom. I also happen to know she doesn't want that to happen either, I guess she still doesn't want to own up to the fact that she lost seven children to the state of Texas.

I'm just being honest, my feelings are my own, and I don't apologize for them.

Answer 6

possibilities but what's the point, it just might create more stress for you and you son, just try to move on or do what our heart tells you...