is talking on the phone with a man other than your husband considered cheating?

Question

i just wanted to know if talking to another man is cheating i have a male friend that is currently in jail and i communicate with him very often and my husband got upset but i dont see it as cheating cause were not physically touching eachother so i just wanted to know what would someone else think about the situation!!!

Answer 1

Its cheating. Look at it from his angle. How would you like it if your husband was talking to some horny sex deprived woman?

I agree with mrpeabody.. the emotional thing is A LOT worse than physical. I can get over the fact that my man ****** someone.. but if he fell in love or had an emotional connection with someone else.. that would kill me.

Answer 2

There are two types of cheating: Emotional Cheating and Physical Cheating. Now a lot of us can't stomach the thought of our mate physically touching someone else. However, emotional cheating is just as harmful to a relationship as physical cheating.

How do most relationships begin? Through talking and getting to know one another and eventually there's an emotional attachment. It doesn't have to be love. Just a little smile in your heart when you hear from that person or you think about them. This eventually leads to a physical relationship. Maybe something small, like brushing your hair out of your face, grabbing your arm in gest, but it leads to more.

Emotionally cheating is also very harmful to your relationship because your using your emotions on someone else. Odds are you tell this person about your day, your life, your thoughts, your wants, etc. All of the same things that you should conversate with your mate about. Before you know it, your mate is in the dark and your friend knows more about you than your mate.

Don't cheat your mate out of the emotional and physical affection that he deserves from his partner. It's not fair to him. And kind of selfish on your part.

Answer 3

Its not really cheating. Cheating involves swapping fluids. That being said, WHAT ARE YOU THINKING? What on earth would you be calling a guy in jail for? If this guy is not family, where's the attachment? I do not blame your husband for objecting. Continuing to have contact with this guy can lead to no good. Don't you suppose he will come looking when he gets out? Look, if you feel some need to tend to the imprisoned join a church group that does it and visit in a crowd. Otherwise you're looking to destroy your own marriage for no good reason, unless of course that is your ultimate goal. In that case fess up and deal with your husband 's leaving now . Then you can do what you want with impunity.

Answer 4

Depends on how you know this guy. Did you know him before you met your husband? Either way why are you accepting his calls so much. You say that your "not physically touching eachother" what does that mean! I think I dudes a friend then your friend needs to relax on the collect calls and stop causing drama in your home. If you want something more but are too affraid to tell your husband then get divorced. WOMEN!

Answer 5

I have a male friend from HS who I talk to about once a month. My husband jokes that he is my boyfriend. The thing is, is that I wouldn't care if my husband heard the whole conversation with this guy and usually I tell him what we talked about and when, so it is very open. Bottom line though if your husband is not a crazy guy than you should respect his wishes and not speak to the guy in jail anymore. Who do you care about more your marital relationship or the friendship? Just remember the vows you took when you got married ...love, honor cherish...I think this falls under HONOR

Answer 6

It would depend on was he a friend before he went to jail or someone you have just met. It would also depend on what your conversation with this person is about. Cheating does not mean just sex it could also be cheating with the mind. When you married your husband you agreed to give yourself totaly to your husband and that is mind and body. To give your mind to someone in a sexual way is a form of cheating that could turn to a phyical level as well.

Answer 7

From your point of view the man is a friend. As long as its not phone sex you aren't cheating. But put yourself in you husband's place. He doesn't know what you are thinking and feeling. He thinks he know what a man is feeling when he is locked up and cannot have female companionship. Your husband my be upset because he doesn't want you to encourage this man to think he has a chance with you when he gets out. Why not stick to just writing letter?

Answer 8

emotional cheating is just as bad as the physical act. You are devoting time to this other person, sharing things you most likely not sharing with your husband and you are wondering why he is angry? (confused look)

Would you like the same thing, if he was chatting all the time with some woman in another State or in jail? Be fair ladies.

Answer 9

It depends on the converstation. If you are discussing personal things and becoming emotionally attached and giving yourself to another man, you are cheating. You should be giving yourself to your husband. But casual conversation should not be a big deal. Cheating is not just sex, cheating is you creating a relationship with anybody on a romantic level besides your spouse.

Answer 10

Intamacy for women is more mental than physical. The bottom line is what bothers your husband. But if you are honest with yourself, you know those phone calls can go WAAAAY beyond chit chat. The guy locked up has nothing but time to think about ways to do you. BE CAREFUL.