I am a married woman. My husband and I are very honest with each other, and that's why I love him so much. When I was in college I experimented with two women. I had sex with them both, but only one time each. Since then I have not had any contact with any women in that way. I told my husband all this when we first got serious, he didn't think anything of it. Now we are married and I have recently been having these dreams about having a 3some with my husband and a woman. These dreams really turn me on. I told my husband and told him I think it's a fantasy. He told me if I wanted to do it then let him know. We agreed to do it, and started looking for women. We didn't find anyone. But during the process I got jealous of him actually wanting to have sex with another woman, regardless to if I was going to be in the room or not. So I told him we were not going to do it and he said fine, it was my idea in the first place. He promised it wouldn't come between us, I chickened out.
2006-07-24 13:57:09 · 13 answers · asked by fglns 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Honestly, It was your fantasy, you brought it up, and agreed to go further with it. You shouldn't feel jealous you should feel happy. Happy that you husband didn't disagree with your fantasy, he stayed by your side. Plus sometimes 3 sums can disturb a relation but your not crazy. Love pulled you back, because you where afraid to loose him in your fantasy.
2006-07-24 14:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by j1io 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
THat's a really personal thing, and I think you discovered what I already know about myself: If I'm in a relationship, I get jealous. I could never be polyamorous, nor could I do a 3some when I'm involved with one of the people. I don't necessarily judge harshly on people for whom that DOES work, though. As long as everyone's being honest with everyone. To answer the question, you're not crazy; you just found out that that's NOT going to work for you.
2006-07-25 05:46:44 · answer #2 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it Lady! It really sound like you came to your senses and remembered your marriage vows. Besides; in a threesome someone always get left out; not getting the same sexual satisfaction. How sad to have this other women in your man's arm; while you wait. Even worse how terrible to have your husband left on the sideline; that could cause jealous feelings after the ordeal has concluded. Keep your bed sacred for you and your understanding husband.
2006-07-24 21:30:15 · answer #3 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, having a 3 some is basically opening a can of worms. And it has nothing to do with your conscience. You just got jealous and worried over the consequences of the act. I have heard disasters happen following such encounters, cherish the one you love and enjoy being together, do not let a stranger in your intimate life.
2006-07-24 21:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by Mx2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good job you chickened out, please don't do this as I am sure it would ruin your marriage, there's the possibility that your husband may fall in love with the other woman and it would be all your fault as you handed it to him on a plate as such. Remember it's every man's fantasy to see his wife / girlfriend with another woman !
There is a huge difference between fantasy and reality.
2006-07-25 10:22:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see why you would be jealous but your husband will still love you . But you aren't crazy and I think it's natural to have fantasies like that. Besides their are crazier fantasies than this one.
2006-07-24 21:26:26 · answer #6 · answered by maxie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you for chickening out and I do agree that a threesome is, indeed, opening a can of worms. As honest as your husband is, just like my partner is, I can't think of a threesome either. Do what you think is best. Good luck.
2006-07-24 21:51:03 · answer #7 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u not crazy u just like trying new things. try having a 3some but do not let your husband go at it with another female.
2006-07-24 21:04:38 · answer #8 · answered by BoRiQuA_MaMi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To bring some one else into a relationship would be taking a big risk. If you fear jealousy may become a factor for ether of you, don't do it.
Tammi Dee
2006-07-24 21:05:51 · answer #9 · answered by tammidee10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step backwards in women's rights. You don't have a consious, that's for sure.
2006-07-24 23:32:49 · answer #10 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋