should i get her something how do i not bring up that when i talk to her what can i do
2006-07-24 13:54:56 · 21 answers · asked by seannah 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Just let her know that you will be there for her.
2006-07-24 13:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by bigjerry61 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean "she lost it"?
And do you really want to "confront" her?
If you mean she lost it....because 'it' died then she needs your love and support.
If you mean she lost it...because the Government decided she would not be a good mother....then she needs your love and support.
If you mean she lost it...because she forgot where she put it....then she needs your love and support.
sheez! This one is hard because I have so many questions that need to be answered before I can give you good solid advice.
I have a son that died at birth. He was much loved, much anticipated, and he is missed every moment of every day. He would be six y/o if he had lived. I love to talk about him. Talking about him makes him real; like his loss is not just a nightmare that I've been living for so many years. There are so many different emotions that go on during a loss.
I need more information.
Can you answer the same question more than once? Crud....I really want to help. I'm new to Yahoo! Answers and don't know all the guidelines. I wish there were someway you could contact me directly.
Trish
2006-07-24 14:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by trishc1812 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell you how sorry you feel and listen to her when she is ready to talk about her loss. Her baby may not have been with us (by that I mean in this world) for very long, but her (his?) short life should be celebrated because this child was a child of God. Cry with her, laugh with, and be there to help her mourn. Offer to take her for counseling, if she chooses to do that. Support her the way you would anyone who has just been through child birth; it was a traumatic experience for her body, so maybe you could help her in some way as she rests and recovers from the birth (do laundry, cook a meal, etc.). Be ready when she brings up the topic of her loss and comfort her the best way you know how. May God bless and keep her, her family, and you. I will pray for you both.
2006-07-24 14:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by blowry007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your friends' loss. It is very difficult to lose a baby. Try to spend as much time as you can with her, hug her when she needs it and just generally be there for her. There are going to be times that she will want to talk about her loss, and other times when she is just going to be quiet and deep into her own thoughts; but your just spending time with her can show your love and support. You can also show your love and support by helping her other family members deal with their loss also. When I lost a baby, many years ago, some of my friends showed their love by making a meal for my husband, or by just making a cup of tea and sitting with me while I cried. You sound like you are a wonderful and caring friend just by reaching out to others for help. Best of luck to you. Your friends' baby is now an angel in heaven and will be in her heart forever.
2006-07-24 14:12:15 · answer #4 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think u meant comfort but I'm sure that she thinks about the baby all the time so just be there for her and talking about it might be the best thing, don't just try to ignore the whole situation!
2006-07-24 14:00:06 · answer #5 · answered by 20 and lovin' it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you want to comfort her and not confront her, The best thing you can do is just to be there for her. If she wants to talk about it listen to her. Just give her a shoulder to lean on.
2006-07-24 13:59:35 · answer #6 · answered by sunniej1977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes its good to talk about it. Let her get it off her chest. I lost a child as well...its not fair, its not...but things like that do happen. Let her know that you are there for her and always will...you can also just be there to listen. Just let her cry.
2006-07-28 12:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by missbehave252002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do u mean she lost it. cause i say she just had a baby and lost it. was it still born or did the state take the baby away?/ u need to be more spacific. but jsut being there for her hould help depending on y she lost the baby...
2006-07-24 14:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is hug her and give her time. Losing a child changes you forever. Don't bring it up. Eventually, she be able to start talking about it, but until then steer clear.
2006-07-24 13:59:16 · answer #9 · answered by The Apple Chick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, there's not much you can do. Just be there to listen & offer a shoulder for her to cry on. I've been where she is and that's all I really needed. There are no words. I'm very sorry to hear of her loss...
2006-07-24 13:59:40 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ jojo ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you wouldnt want to "confront" her!!!!
What you want to do it comfort her! If she feels like talking about it be a good friend and a good listener.
2006-07-24 13:59:58 · answer #11 · answered by geet840 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋