i think its rude for some other adult other than my parents to comment on the way you eat, do u?

Question

i was at my friends uncles party and i licked my fingers at the table.her aunt said "dont lick ya fingers baby". i thought this was rude of her speakin that i dont like her and its none of her bizness wat i do at home. also this was with the comment she made on my hair. at the time my hair was braided and it had blue fake hair in it .she asked me if my mother let me put in in my hair and i said yea. i mean duh i live wit my motha and its not like shes blind.matter of fact my mother is the one who let me buy it and she put it in . when i got home i told my mother wat happened and how her aunt was rude and loud about the situation.my motha was very upset and she was sayin how if she was there she wouldnt have commented on my hair nd embarassed me the she did.in this case i realized that her aunt was taking advantage of me because i was a child . i didnt appreciate it and neither did my mother.

NOTE:WASNT HER HOUSE WE WERE AT A HALL AND SHE IS NOT IN MY FAMILY !!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

It takes a community...

Answer 2

Hms, well you weren't at your house, you were at your uncles party I'm guessing his house or whatever. But manners are manners, there are certain rules in what you can and can't do when yer eating with others at a table. I mean hell, do whatever you do when yer eating alone. Sometimes people find that "licking your finger" while others are eating rude and disgusting.
As for the business of yer hair, dearie, words are just words. It doesn't matter what she thinks of yer hair or what others think of yer hair. Yer mother appears to be respoinsible enough and even trust you enough in actually taking you out and buying you the stuff. So props for yer relationship w/ yer mom.
But sweetie, I do suggest just shrugging it off. If she says a comment that appears to be rude or just not right...just say tell her, "Well I'm sorry you feel that way, but thats just your opinion which is entirely different from my own." Dont know if this will help but i hope it does ^__^

Answer 3

If you're at someone else's house, then yes I think it's okay that they made a comment on how you were eating at their table. If you were outside the home, then it might have been rude. However, since you're a child, then it's most likely that they were pointing out manners to you...it's not good manners to lick your fingers at the dinner table.

Answer 4

Manners are manners, you should thank your aunt for showing you the right way. Licking your fingers is disgusting. So is chewing with your mouth open. She has your best interests at heart and doesn't want people to judge you as hillbilly based on the way you eat. You're lucky to have family that cares.

Answer 5

This lady was trying to help you with your public manners and based upon what you said did not shout it at you for the whole room to hear but spoke directly to you. You need to learn to accept constructive criticism that will benefit you instead of getting on your high horse like you know everything. . . cause you don't. . . and as you move into the business world. . . if you do that you would be looked down on as a person w/o class. Think about it.

Answer 6

I think that is totally rude.
Many ppl comment on the way I eat all the time.
I am a vegetarian and I don't eat much so when I am at things like church suppers and things my friends grandma always comments that I am skinny and that I should eat meat.
It ticks me off so bad.
Ppl should keep they're comments to themselves

Answer 7

Excuse me? You were at their house? Get over yourself. Respect others and mind your manners when you are at someone else's house. You follow their rules or leave. Besides, they are allowed to have their own opinion. Just because you don't like it doesn't matter. You were in their house. Besides, only a immature little girl would walk around with FAKE blue hair. Geez.

Answer 8

Her points were good (or at least the point about the licking), but it was not her place to point them out to you. I think that you should call her up and tell her how you feel about what she said and the way she treated you (and make sure your mother is on the line too).

Answer 9

i agree that it was out of her place to say something on both occasions. However licking your fingers at the table is rude and tacky. Unless it was an informal barbecues or something outdoors

Answer 10

Well maybe if your mother had been correcting you, you would not be licking your fingers when you are a guest in someones home.

Answer 11

licking your fingers is verboten in many houselholds.

Now you know. Consider that a learning expereince. You can't foist yourself upon others without considering your hosts.