Were you or someone you know adopted?

Question

How has this impacted your life? Do you have the desire to know
your biological parents? Why or why not?

Answer 1

My sons father was adopted when he was born and was never told until the end of his ilfe. Actually he was 'bought' through a private transaction between attorneys. His adoptive parents never told him. I remember when our son was born and getting him tested for some genetic disease that only Jewish fathers carry, and since his "parents" are jewish we thought it was appropriate to have him tested, and I remember the looks on his "parents" faces when we would talk about family traits, etc.

He had many problems, emotionally, and was an addict. While he was in florida, in August 2002, at an out-patient rehab program, during a counceling session, he received a phone call from a woman who claimed to be his natural mother to his great surprise. He called his parents to ask and they confirmed that yes he was adopted. It turns out that not only does he not have jewish heritage but he is Native American, which explained the addictive behavior. I guess the strain was too much for him. In December he wrote me a letter telling me everything about his adoption and his given name at birth. The freaky thing is we named our son Andrew David, his given name was David Andrew!! We had no idea at the time we decided to name our son!

Then in January I received a call that he had passed away. He had a history of suicide attempts and the cause of death was an OD of what ever pills the Dr. had prescribed for him.

March 2002 rolls around and my mom and I decided to try to locate his natural mother. A week after we sent out emails to all the tribes we could find on the internet we received a call from her, she had no idea that we were looking for her and that her son had passed before she even got a chance to meet him. I had to be the one to break it to her. But we met a couple months later and she is WONDERFUL! I honestly believe that if he had been raised by her then he would have turned out much differently. But then again I never would have met him and I never would have had my son. Maybe thats why he was put on this earth to begin with!! We have a great relationship now....and even more important my son has his grandma!!!

I want to emphasize after living this story that honesty is so important in families. His adoptive parents, after he died, threw almost everything of his away. I can understand how painful it was for them, but they should have given me a chance to see what I wanted to keep for my son. They did keep a couple things for Andrew but I know there was more that they just got rid of. Secrets tore that family to shreds, denial helped the secrets. Tell the children who are adopted that they were given to them, that they were chosen.....a wonderful gift. Don't wait till it's too late!!!

Answer 2

I was. I also left home at 13 years old. I never went back. I have often thought about it. I have grown up on my own ever since that day I left. I think that for some people it is a good thing to find them. They can find out more about themselves medically and know about any illnesses. Some people give away their children for reason that better the child's life. It doesn't mean that they just didn't want them. couldn't afford them or to sick to take care of them. For me I found out that my family is not biological, but my friends. I now have a nine year old son that I take care of. biologically he is not mine. I have raised him his whole life. I love him like he is mine. when the right age comes I will tell him that I am not his biological father, and from there he can decide what to do. so how this has impacted my life is that I learned to treat people better, because anyone can be family.

Answer 3

My two boys were adopted. As adults they wanted to look up their biological father and did. That was fine with me. I love them dearly and both are fine, fine, young men. Nearly all adoptees in my acquaintance have the need or desire to find their biological parents. Why? Good question.

Answer 4

it makes you really wonder why you was adopted and what happen to your parents i mean i know that side of my family i still see them (my real family) but my dad i dont know and was never found and my real mom died when i was a baby but it really doesnt feel like im adopted becuase the fact that my foster parents are the best parents anyone can ask for.

Answer 5

My little brother is adopted . He is of different color but we love each other soooo much . No he has no desire to meet his biological crack addict parents

Answer 6

i imagine it relies upon on the context. The adoption turned right into a second in time, however it also has ongoing outcomes. once you're talking about the previous and the events surrounding how your newborn entered your relations, "were followed" is totally perfect. however, even as talking about your youngster's present certainty, i imagine "are followed" is more effective precise to the certainty of the challenge, because it isn't some thing that only ends even as the paper is signed. Your newborn will continually stay the certainty of someone who's followed, so "are followed" is more effective perfect in an ongoing context. Which to apply relies upon on which section you attempt to positioned across on the time.

Answer 7

im not going to rush into sex im going to wait till marraig...im positive about that

Answer 8

NO I WASN'T BUT I HAVE A COUSIN WHO WAS ADOPTED

Answer 9

no, but i have a friend who was adopted..