My best friend of about 6 years has a new girlfriend who he claims he loves. I am a girl and she doesn't like him hanging around me because she is afriad that me and him are more that just friends though we have never been more that just friends. Now he is mad at me and he claims that if she breaks up with because of me that he will never speak to me again. Is that wrong to put a relationship of only about 2 months above our 6 year friendship??
~~confused and angry~~
2006-07-24 13:28:09 · 6 answers · asked by ??? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Absolutely. His first loyalty should be to you, as you have been friends for many years. What is most troubling, is he is willing to end your relationship. It would seem he is under an ultimatum from this girl, and has made his choice between you.
I would say he shall get what he deserves when she disappears from his life, and he does not have you to turn to.
Good luck!
2006-07-24 13:37:42 · answer #1 · answered by cheekandfolly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wrong, yes. Understandable? Also yes.
It's an awkward situation for everyone involved -- try to understand why she'd feel so uncomfortable, and try to back off a bit. Or try to get along with her a little better.
But it sounds like your friend is being very hurtful -- tell him how you feel about him turning his back on you like that, and see what he says. If he's willing to put your friendship at risk for a new relationship, he's not a true friend anyway.
2006-07-24 20:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by epiCure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to your friend and tell him how you are feeling. See where he is coming from. That sort of thing. I don't think is right for him to put a 2 month relationship in front of one that has lasted 6 years. But you still need to talk to him about whats going on.
2006-07-24 20:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by fayth_76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be angry that your best friend is not sticking up for you. He's not a true friend if he lets his girlfriend get into the way of your friendship.
2006-07-24 20:32:44 · answer #4 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to step back and let his relationship ride it's course; whether that's 2 years or 22 years. If he's willing to put his love for her above you guys' relationship, then that kind of says a lot about him, don't you think? He's doing it for her sake, obviously. If he was dating you, wouldn't you want him to cut most if not all communcation with any of his female friends? ((And before you answer that, think about it. Most of us don't want our men "hanging out" with other females.))
2006-07-24 22:15:09 · answer #5 · answered by Dee M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you , he shouldnt do that even if she does break up with him cause of that i think he will realize who his true friend is and will start missing you
2006-07-24 20:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by Melanie<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋