Married men and women?

Question

Quick question for all the married men and women out there. Do you think its right to look a porn on the internet while married and have a family started? Do you think if looking at porn on the internet can lead to seperation in marriages?

Answer 1

I think it can be harmful if it becomes an addiction, but otherwise it can be fun. I don't mind if my husband looks at porn as long as it's not illegal (like kids or animals...YUCK). And once in a while we can enjoy some together! But if someone is looking at porn and neglecting their family, then it has gone too far.

Answer 2

You'd better believe it! The definition of pornographic is to view a picture - a picture of illicit sexual activity of people other than your spouse - a picture that is now forever etched in your subsoncious mind -Which can lead to unrealistic expectations of your spouse - such as asking them to engage in something that may have been viewed on a porn movie that they are not comfortable with and also having fantasies that won't be fulfilled leads to discontentment in the marital bed My suggestion to those engaged in porn BEWARE it can develop into an addiction and can lead to serioius problems within yourself not just your marriage - If you want to encourage your spouse to do new things - remember that they may not be open to it and don't force it and also remember that communication is key - be honest and you never know they may be open to try new and interesting things - the bible says the marriage bed is undefiled however that does not include bringing other people into the marital bed and metaphorically that is exactly what happens when you bring pornography into your most intimate moments with your spouse - Hope this helps

Answer 3

Personally I think porn is OK. Some therapists even recommend that couples watch porn together to help their sex life.

There's a couple things you should look at though
1) Is he neglecting you and your kids for porn
2) Is his job in jeopardy because of it?

If not then it shouldn't be an issue. I know a lot of women get upset because they think their man is comparing them to the ladies on the screen, but truth is, he doesn't need porn for that. Men are very visual. Plain and simple. I don't think looking at porn would cause separation unless one party in the marriage felt left out.

Answer 4

Personally I believe that anything sexual should be shared with your spouse. The bible says the "marriage bed" is undefiled, not the "married man" is undefiled or the "married woman" is undefiled. I think that your husband should be aware that you are indulging in porn as the wife should know if the husband is, even if it cannot be shared. The characters committing pornographic acts are NEVER married so that is a window opening that could because of the nature of pornography lead to marital problems. If something is bothering you do not be afraid to be as bold as porn and TELL your spouse how you feel!! There are a lot of websites that are very helpful and deal with this very matter, like this one:
http://www.firesofdarkness.com/ and this one:
http://liquidchurch.typepad.com/liquidchurch/2005/10/struggling_get_.html
Best wishes and God bless.

Answer 5

Wow, I cannot believe how many uptight people there are out there. (look at the emotional baggage above)

Porn is something you can enjoy by yourself or with your spouse. It can enhance your love life, give you some new ideas, inspire healthy communication about your sex life and even spark a little excitement when you thought you were too tired to spend some quality time together.

Just remember: "It doesn't matter where you get hungry as long as you eat at home."

Of course, if that's all he does, you got a problem. If it is enhancing your love life, then enjoy!

Those of you out there who have trouble with sexual intimacy need to look in the mirror to discover what's missing or wrong. There are many of us who enjoy porn, love our spouses and enjoy exploring each other sexually. We are not the ones with the problem.

Answer 6

Looking at Porn when you are married is bad. It can and will lead to separation. It is also Highly addictive. I would talk to him and tell him, this is not right it has to stop! I wouldn't want my husband to look at porn, lusting over women while I am taking care of the children.....

I would even talk to a professional about this, a counseler, or maybe even your pastor at Church! Good Luck and God bless

Answer 7

We are sexual beings...looking at porn is no more detrimental to a marriage than looking at football prepares a 35 year old man for the NFL.

Nagging a man about looking at porn CAN cause the detriment of a marriage. Changing the rules of the sexual relationship is a detriment.

What stopping you from looking at porn? Join him.


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Answer 8

I look at internet porn and my wife knows it. She got me my subscription to Playboy 25 years ago. She says men will look at porn or other women...if they don't they are not normal. People that feel threatened if their spouse is looking at porn are insecure in their relationship.

Answer 9

My husband does look at porn sometimes but 99% of men do. I don't take any offense to it though. If he does it all the time then I would worry that he is probally addicted. But trust me, it is defiently normal for some strange reason.

Answer 10

NO its not alright. It is adultery of the heart, and the victim spouse will always be/feel compared. It is highly addicting, and if the the committing spouse does not admit a problem or seek help, I recommend a support group for the victim. I have a girl friend who's husband has struggled with this for years, and it has been heartbreaking for her.