I have a friend that says she'll come on a girls nite-out etc and then just never turns up. So you'll text her to find out what happened to her coming out and she won’t reply...BUT will send u a text in the next 2 days asking if the whole group wants to go out for dinner...(Just ignoring the fact that she ditched us and ignored our messages!!??) Should I just not reply and give her her own taste of medicine?? (even tho she deserves it I still feel rude not replying)...its just not like me...I feel so rude...but she does it to us all the time and doesn’t seem to have a problem making excuse or ignoring us when it comes to our plans but expects us to always reply to her…(its like we're only good enough to see her when its ok with her...) she's always making up excuses...what should I do? should I not reply and see how she likes it??
2006-07-24 12:57:13 · 7 answers · asked by hello hello! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't know. It is a strange behavior. If she didn't want to go out with you all, then why would she mention going out again? You never know what kind of personal struggles a person is going through. You may think you know them, but it is possible there are things that are just too painful to tell others. So she kind of holds you all "at bay", like she doesn't want you all to get too close, because she's afraid of what you all might do if you knew the truth. I'm not saying you need to feel sorry for her and continue to allow her to treat you all that way. Perhaps all of you that she does this too, could get together and in a kind but firm manner let her know that it has made you all feel like she doesn't value your friendships. If she does value it, then you all need her actions to show it or you all would prefer to give her some time away from you until she figures out what it is she needs. Anyway, just communicate, be clear and don't give up your right to have a friend treat you like one back.
2006-07-24 13:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by whostolemyprofile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know if ignoring her messages would bother her. It bothers you when she doesn't reply, and that's prolly linked to why you feel guilty when you don't. If she doesn't give a damn about ditching you, she might not care if you do the same. Just stop inviting her along to your stuff and save yourself the aggravation. You can always go out with her when she initiates if you want.
2006-07-24 13:03:48 · answer #2 · answered by Phil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had something similar happen to me recently and as I read what you wrote, it made me even angrier about my situation, so I'm going to advise you to not reply to her and see how she likes it. On my end, I'm going to do the same thing. Just wait until it's YOUR 30th birthday and your dillhole friends sell you out. I wish I'd thought of your idea 2 weeks ago when a sellout friend of mine rescheduled plans with me only to sell me out yet again. I wished I beat her to the punch. Looks like you & your friends and me all need to look for more reliable friends. Good luck!
2006-07-24 13:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore her! Let her see how it feels to be ignored, and maybe you all can talk it out, and still remain friends.
2006-07-24 13:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by PurpleHaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend just like her....who would make a committment, then not showing up....don't even bother to call that she wouldn't be able to make it....can't tolerate people like her....I stopped calling and inviting her on any events...She's not reliable, don't trust her anymore...
2006-07-24 13:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by Marie Nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send a text message saying that she shouldn't ignore you if she doesn't then, ignore her.
2006-07-24 13:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by ~áƦMissáƦSENáƦ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be polite and have more class then she did.
Be kind and walk by faith not by site
2006-07-24 13:01:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋