Do you think my mother thinks she is too young to be a grandmother?

Question

My husband and I have been together for a total of 5 years. We plan to start trying for a baby in about 9 months when I am 24 and he is 26.

That means our baby will be born when my mother is 47. This will be her first grandchild.

My mother says things to discourage me from having a child even though we are financially and emotionally stable.

We want to start a family and my mom seems to have a problem with the thought of being a grandma. She tells me to wait until I am 30 before I get pregnant so she has will have more time to be a grandma.

My mother had me and my older brother when she was 19 and 22.

And then had my two little brothers when she was 33 and 37.

So she still has an 8 year old and a 12 year old at home.


Maybe she thinks she is too young to be a grandma since she still has pre-teen kids at home?

I feel I can’t put my life on hold because she had two more children once I was in my teens!

Answer 1

my mom had the same problem. i was 24, and she was 44. my lil bro graduated high school that year.

people would say "wow! you don't look old enough to have a kid who is graduating high school!"

so she wouldn't admit to having another son, 4 years older than that.

i don't blame her. she looks really young for her age, and everyone loves compliments.

my son is now 6 months old. the day he was born, my mom was screaming "I'M A GRANDMA" from the rooftops.

She had more pictures in her purse than I did in my wallet.

Suddenly, I exist, and she has no problem telling people her age, that she's a grandma, etc.

Babies change people. Sometimes for the better. Do what you feel is right, and let everything else happen like it will...

Answer 2

well actuly u only think she will be 47 whenu have a baby. u dont know if u are gonna get pregnant in 9 months noone does. it could be a few years before u have ur first baby. and i cant say much my mom said she was to young to be a grandma when she first became a grandma she was like 36 or 37 years old when she first became a grandma now shes almost 43 and shes a grandma of 4 soon to be 5..i am 21 yrs old and have 2 kids

Answer 3

i was 23 when i had my son, and my mum died while i was pregnant. she was 42 and she was so excited about it even though my brother is only 9. my younger sister had a girl 2 days after she turned 18 and my mum was still the happiest grandma ever.
maybe because she had a brain tumour and realised that she was lucky to live long enough to become a grandmother. my parents were also 19 when i was born. i'm not sure why your mum is unhappy, maybe she's just never thought of being a grandparent. just reming her that it doesnt mean she has to stay home and knit all day. my mother inlaw is 51 and she has 6 grandkids and she goes clubbing 3 times a week and by clubbing i mean karaoke and one or two drinks.
i think your mum will be okay once she sees your baby and sees how happy you are.
good luck and i know things will be okay

Answer 4

First i half to say if and when you and your husband have a child now or 10 years from now your mom has nothing to do with that but... 47 is not to young or old i have a friend who is married and her husband is older than her and has children close to her age with children I always joke with her because she is grandma and i every times she says oh my grandkid is coming over it gives me a chill even though she is older than me .... just because she is grandma with this day and time many people are not being called grandma they have the kids call them by their first name as my cousins kids do their grandma or they have other nick names for them so tell your mom if she dosn't want to be called grandma think of a cute nick name they could call her and i bet that would make her feel a lot better ...if not just tell her to deal with it.

Answer 5

If you and your husband are ready to start a family then do so. Your mom will get over becoming a grandma and I bet by the time the baby gets here she will be happy with the idea. My sister just became a grandma at 36, she was not happy at first but now she's loving it, all the fun with out all the responsibility.
Good Luck

Answer 6

if you think you are ready for a baby now then you go ahead, you 24 and your mother is still telling you what to do??? your married and got your own life bring another one into this world, your mother will be happy when she sees her grandchild for the first time and she will be the happiest grandma on that day. good luck and all the best to you and your husband

she had you when she was 22 so why cant you start young your grandmother was a young grandmother!!!!

Answer 7

Do what you're ready to do. This is your Mom's "problem" and not yours at all. She's just having a hard time dealing with aging. She probably doesn't feel old at all, but she's getting close of 50 which can be a scary thing. I'm sure she'll love her grandchild. If you and your husband are ready to have a baby, good luck to you.

Answer 8

She might feel that she's too young to be a Grandma. And that's fine. But you shouldn't put your life as well as your hubby's life on hold because the timing isn't good for HER. If you two feel that now is the time to start a family of your own, then do it.

Answer 9

It sounds like you are ready to have children. I wouldn't listen to your mom. She is equating being a grandmother with being old. She will get used to it. I had one child at 22 and my second child when I was 33. I had a lot more energy when I was 22 and would recommend having your child in your 20's.

Answer 10

I am 49 and I would not mind having a grand child.
But that would mean that I would have to had a girl child somtime from 12 or more years in the past. Darn I did not have any kids yet.