before we got married it was like great everthing allmost to perfect it has been three months now and i am working very hard to keep the love going in our marriage it seems like everday its all about her she never asks me how my day went or how im feeling it is allways about her eather its her back hearting or she is on her period i understand how those thing can affect a womens body and her aditude but i have never heard of anyone strayning a muscle from kissing or hugging i allways have to anitiate every thing she has never offered to rub my back never i allways offer to rub her back or anything she needs me to do i do it because i love so much. Our sex life is ok but she never starts it she says she likes to cuddle but she allways waits for me to cuddle with her first. I dont know what to do i feel like maybe she is loosing her love for me im scared i am going to lose her.I know right now we are living with her mother right now we are waiting for some appartments to open.(help)
2006-07-24 12:28:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like she is a very selfless person to me
2006-07-24 12:31:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oriencheung is silly but correct. Women like men to take control. My Dad told me years ago that in every relationship there is a "lovee" and a "lover." Just embrace your role as the lover and pour it on her, put it on her and keep working on getting her that home away from home, no matter how small. Maybe pick up some extra work? It has been three months and for me it has been a year and three months. The first year is a little hellish, my friend. Just keep up the good work...things will get better. Hang in and don't give up. TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL!!! Be gentle yet strong with her: passionate and virile....fireworks!!! are what you need buddy. God bless your marriage, you and your wife.
2006-07-24 20:01:32 · answer #2 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking to us, and start talking to her. Talking couldn't possibly make her strained muscles any worse. A yahoo forum won't solve your problems when it's with you and your wife. You two are married, it is -both- of yours responsibility to keep this relationship alive. If you think this problem is so progressed, I would suggest marriage counseling. Some mediator, that will help both of you open up. Perhaps something is bothering her? You won't know if you don't TALK TO HER. None-the-less, goodluck with your situation.
2006-07-24 19:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by CrimsonStained 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
daniel, what should u do???? well for starters, when a person actually loves someone, they show it no matter what, they express it physically, they think of u, they call u, they do all the things to "keep" you,,,,,hello,,,,we are not playing checkers here,, if she needs a down payment from you then she does not love you, that is something you must accept dan, be wise, why should you have to show it, seems to me u already are showing it, so open those eyes and put 1 & 1 together,,,,great luck,,,scorpion
2006-07-24 20:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by tone284 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are newly married. things are not going to feel right until u get ur own place. I went thru this with my mother in law. Try and be patient kiss her every morning and evening. Tell her u love her everyday. Things should turn better when you know you have your own place and can be truly alone.
2006-07-24 19:35:20 · answer #5 · answered by xeson1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she isn't comfortable with herself. Tell her she is beautiful everyday. Bring her gifts, leave her notes around the house, take her out on dates again. It will make her feel better. Little things like that make females happy.
Girls appriciate little things from their men. It shows us that you care without having us have to ask you.
2006-07-24 19:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she loves you. She might feel a little intimidated to start it. Keep doing what you are doing and tell her you'd love it if she would start the loving first. It will sink in eventually and work to your advantage.
2006-07-24 19:32:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just love her without expecting anything in return. MOVE OUT OF MOM'S HOUSE. Sometimes, girls need to feel extra special.
2006-07-24 19:56:38 · answer #8 · answered by windthatawakens 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may de official lazy, self-centered, selfish spouse that found her official bill paying baby making machine.
But then again you are living at Mommy's house.
In my book no job you don't deserve to get laid period.
2006-07-24 19:37:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she depressed becuz u ahve no privacy and live wiht her mother? does she have fibromyalgia(pain just everywhere) caused from bad sleep and depression? she loves u or u wouldnt get married perhaps she is ill like that try to understand and ask her
2006-07-24 19:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by ihave2knownow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time. . . marriage requires some adjustments, I know. Give what you can; what you hope she can give you, and try to be patient. p.s. Having a private apt will definitely help; take care!
2006-07-24 19:33:04 · answer #11 · answered by lilacmom1956 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋