I saw a guy die, how do I get that out of my head?

Question

I was driviving home from work when a guy on a motorcycle coming the other way slid of the road and into a no parking sign. When I went to look to see if i could help I could tell he was dead. His guts were hanging out and there were bits and pieces of him all over the ditch. I keep thinking about it all the time,and i want it to stop.

it was a week ago and it happened right outside where I work and every day I have to drive past where it happened

Answer 1

Don't try to make it go away, just find a place in your head where you can keep it without dwelling on it. Time will take care of this, but if you need faster help, seek professional therapy.

Answer 2

This is traumatic emotional shock. People react in different ways. Some voluntary and other reactions are involuntary. Yours is possibly involuntary, but that doesn't mean you can't control the memory. Some people block this out very well. The obsessive compulsive visions must have some meaning tied to your future. It may be related to your erratic driving. Do you irritate other drivers on normal days? I recommend taking a course in anger management and aggressive driving.
This event alone will not cure you. It's like being a semi-alcoholic and seeing a friend exceed his drinking limit and you stay with him for the next 12 hours. You see that he's sick, but you don't make the connection with your life.
In your case, a community service in your area will direct to social services. Motor vehicle may have resources. It's cheap to take a class, but expensive to ignore this advice.

Good Luck with a capital G

Answer 3

While I've seen the aftermath of some deaths (guy hung himself from a tree, car accident, etc) I have never seen it actually occur.

If it is bothering you, you might honestly consider therapy. Not saying there is anything wrong with your brain, but seeing something like that can have real consequences for you, and it might be best to talk it out. One thing you should remember is that what happened happened, there isn't anything you can do about it, it would have happened whether you were there or not.

Good luck, I hope you can put this towards the back of your mind.

Answer 4

Mate, youve gotta make sure you dont get blamed for his murder or sumat! But seriously, i feel really sorry for you - ive been in a similar situation, and i know how hard it can be. When i was 11 years old I watched as my step father was shot to death in the very room im sitting in now - i have to walk into this room countless times a day. For the first few months i couldnt get it out of my head because it was such a violent and distressing image. Back then i would never have been able to describe it like this, but i just started thinking to myself that hundreds of people die every day, and there must be loads of people that have seen someone being shot like that. I told myself that that was simply his fate - there was and still is absolutely nothing i could do to erase thata experience. But the fact that i knew that and i knew i felt bad about it helped me to get over it. Its obvious youre feeling very bad about this - but you have to realise that the fact you feel bad about it is good because it shows youhave a heart, and im sure the poor guy would be proud of you because he knows you have feelings. I always remember that my step dad knows i felt bad about it, but really that was all i could do. So just remember that - that feeling bad is the only thing you can do. Im sure that guys feels even worse about putting his death on your conscience, which is another thing i told myself. Im also sure he would rather you didnt feel bad about it because he would want you to get on with your life - i know its not the same because you didnt know him but im sure it still applies. Just remember that if you WANT to you CAN and WILL get over it sometime. Good Luck.

Answer 5

You will never forget it!

The intensity of it will lesson over time.

Just take it as a lesson learned, Don't ride motorcycles! Too dangerous!

I saw a motorcyclist's head roll away while still in his helmet, YUCK! and that was about 20 years ago!

Answer 6

Who is thinking the thoughts you're thinking? You are. So you need to listen, and then write down what your thoughts are...line by line, item by item. Don't be afraid. You are okay. You must be a good person; you stopped to check on the person's wellfare.

You could look at this as an important "bridge" in your life. You are really ready to "cross" this bridge and learn something very important to you (growth/maturity). Courage, patience, and hope.

Cheers

Answer 7

i would say be really nice to yourself for a long time... watch movies.... by some expensive cheese (if your into that hahaha), be really nice to yourself.... and try to take your mind off of it.... talk to a friend about it.....better yet hang out with a friend a little more... they will take your mind off it more and more.... and you will be getting over it in about well maybe a few weeks..... Yeah therapists are really nice but also really expensive. So donl't worry.... and go buy some cheese!

Answer 8

You don't say how long ago this was, if it is in the past few days, I would say that this is normal.

If it has been going on a while, you may need some professional help, Talking about it helps.

Answer 9

mostly you will just have to let it pass with time. i saw a guy die. he was hanging upside down in his van by his seatbelt. when the rescuers finally got him out of the van, i thought he was a black man. the next day in the paper, they had his picture, and he was white. that was stuck in my head for a very long time. i might recommend seeing a counselor.

Answer 10

Talk to Doctor Phil or an equally certified Ph.D in quantum physics