My husband of 15 years secretly joined myspace as a single man. when confronted he said a coworker (female) said she had pics on there that he should check out. (semi nude). He obviously was sneaky and hid this... do you think he is cheating or just curious? He also found pics of her on another site to view... went to the trouble of doing this and hiding it from me... i just happened to snoop... please advise.
2006-07-24 12:21:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he said he was just curious... but i feel like you see this person at work everyday.. why do you need to know what is under her clothes? am i right????
2006-07-24 12:28:43 · update #1
I did have a serious talk with him and he said it was just a stupid thing for him to do. he did cancel his membership and said he is sorry he hurt me....
2006-07-24 12:34:09 · update #2
If a wife or husband hides something then they know it is wrong. I don't like to hear one of them say well I didn't say anything because they would have been mad and it was innocent then if that was the case they should have been open about it
2006-07-24 12:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by dollynjanie 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes relationships get into a slump - especially after an extended period of time (i.e.- years of marriage) However it sounds as if he's gotten curious, bored, seeking an outlet from the stresses of marriage or whatever. We as people usually hide things from our significant others because we feel a certain sense of guilt that what we are engaged in is not the right thing to be doing. I am certainly not making excuses for your husband but I do suggest that you confront the situation head on and try to get to what the source of the real problem is and work toward a solution. Have a heart to heart talk with him and dig deeper - if he refuses to be honest with you - the situation could be on the way to serious problems or have already entered that zone without your prior knowledge. Just remember that we ALL do things (not necessarily adultery) that will prove to be a disappointment to our significant other and it is important to keep that in mind so that you won't judge the situation or the person too harshly - He that is without sin - cast the first stone - If both of you are willing to recapture what made you fall in love with one another in the first place - you can cross this unfortunate milestone with lots of forgiveness, caring, compromise, and commitment - those are the four cornerstones to making any relationship work and also keeping in mind that everything won't be peaches and cream all the time - times get tough but they can be overcome - Hope this helps
2006-07-24 19:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by 2deep4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether he has or he hasn't actually gone to the point of actually screwing her, he feels guilty because a part of him at least IS guilty. He's cheating regardless! If he didn't see it that way, he wouldn't go through the trouble of trying to keep it a secret, but more to the point, if he's spending time looking a half nudes of this woman specifically, not just women in general, he is very, very, very, very, very, VERY likely cheating.
2006-07-24 19:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by hecatesmoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know it depends. He maybe totally Innocent just talking to people as a single person. But the chick at work.....that's another story. Why would this girl that he works with want him to see nude pics of her. I think the guys I work with are the last guys I would want to see me naked. Talk to him go with what you truly think.
2006-07-24 19:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by miss_nursie_nurse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married men should not spend too much time on the internet. Make it less than 1 hr each day. Make this a clause in an agreement before marriage.
2006-07-25 04:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's certainly not being honest with you, that's for sure. I think you need to have one hell of a talk with him and ask him what exactly is going on. This is NOT OK by any stretch of the imagination. You might want to get some couples counseling. If he won't do it, go alone! Do not let this situation slide.
2006-07-24 19:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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you have every right to be hurt, he may or may not have cheated physically but mentally looking at other women is cheating, its excused and excepted now adays as " you can look but not touch" and people also chalk it as every one does it. so it seems less offensive and forgiven easier to some. you should not have to say you forgive him or that you trust him but what you should be saying is youll have to prove your sorry and prove i can trust you again and as a penalty of his action you have every right to snoop and not trust. if you do say i accept your appology then you have to understand this is the end of the arguement and you should never use it in an arguement. good luck
2006-07-24 20:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like trouble coming down the road.
2006-07-24 19:23:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's on the road to an affair, if he isn't already there. The fact that he is hiding it from you shows that he himself feels guilty about his actions.
2006-07-24 19:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by PuttPutt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you email me and tell me what their myspace? my is greenbaypackers1920@yahoo.com and I would like to see what to see and then if so then I can email you and let you know that he is cheating or not or what ever it is. I would like to see and give you full answers when I get informations fromyou asap. thanks msile.
2006-07-24 19:32:04 · answer #10 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋