2006-07-24 11:50:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok. wait awhile before u say hey daughter this is my new gf, she will get hurt, trust me, it has happened to my daughter, she didnt like the other female, and she was 4 as well, so give it sometime, take her to the park, watch a movie, hang out, that will get her comfortable with you.
2006-07-24 11:53:18 · answer #1 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are in charge of her, you are just the grown-up/babysitter/friend she has to mind, just like a teacher, neighbor, etc. A 4 year old does NOT need to be involved in Daddy's love life. The most important relationship is between the child and their parents. Staking a claim for your power over this child serves YOU, not the child. Be benign and neutral!
2006-07-24 12:54:34 · answer #2 · answered by mariasonawire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't. You as an adult need to understand that kids don't understand the whole boyfriend vs. girlfriend vs baby mama thing. This is an adult matter that has nothing to do with that little girl. Leave her out of the relationship unless you are going to marry this guy, then go slowly from there.
2006-07-24 11:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would think it might be best not to say to much until you guys are sure this will last between you two. Children can be hurt by people coming in and out of their life because of rushing into something. It is cruel to involve a child into an adult relationship until for certain.
2006-07-24 11:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. I was in a relationship with a bf who has a 8 year old daughter and I broke up with him because of his daughter. Step kids hardly work out no matter how hard you try.
2006-07-24 11:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you want to be like a mother to her but turn it around. Think if your dad brought home a random woman you've never met and said, here's your new mommy. That would totally hurt if it was me. Give her some time and let her grow to love you. Don't force yourself upon her. Your intentions are good, but they may end up hurting this little girl more then you think.
2006-07-24 11:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by Lexi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you living together? Does he have full custody?
If you aren't living together and he doesn't have full custody, just telling her that you are his special friend should be enough.
If you are living together, than it's appropriate to tell her that you know you aren't her mommy, but you hope you can be friends because her daddy and you are going to be together all the time now. Assure her that her daddy still loves her just as much as before and that you want to be her friend too.
2006-07-24 11:57:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With her being that young you should just stick to telling her that you are his friend. If you guys are getting married then you can add more details, but as it stands don't tell her too much or it will confuse her.
2006-07-24 11:53:51 · answer #8 · answered by Meg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give dad some space... you don't mention how long you've been together... kids, especially little kids need routines and stability, if you two don't have any set plans yet, don't even start to get involved in that kid's life. and if he's already started involving you in "family style" outings and you two don't have any set plans...STOP!
2006-07-24 11:54:59 · answer #9 · answered by blkrose65 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him to explain that he will always love her but he loves u too!! if he's not ready to say he loves u then tell him to say that he has a new friend and then as she gets a lil older she'll understand
2006-07-24 11:56:00 · answer #10 · answered by savvy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋