Is it inevitable that a man will cheat eventually, regardless of what his wife/girlfriend does?

Question

Do men get bored with the same old thing after a period of time? Does cheating enhance the sexual aspects of the relationship because it's exciting and that excitement transfers into the commitment? Do women get any benefit from their counterpart's infidelities?

Answer 1

Yes it is inevitable that a man will cheat eventually.....especially if the women is not giving him attention. Yes, some men get bored with the same thing over a period of time. Imagine this...eating a plain chocolate cake over and over and over again for 10 years. Now....dotn deny it....you will get tired or it. But, suppose one day you find the same chocolate cake on ur table the next day and right next to it is this delicious, scrumptious, mouthwatering vanilla with almonds cake right next to it. Which one would you take? Now, you Know you have a commitment to the chocolate cake for the rest of your life...so which one would you take? Yeah ,you would take the vanilla one. So thats how it's with men and women. Men get tired after a while, just like you got tired of the chocolate cake.

Answer 2

Theres no benefit on anyone's part outside of the person cheating and being cheated with........

It doesnt make the relationship stronger because no matter the outcome someone is hurt .........

If the relationship lasts no matter how good it gets its always in the back of the mind of the person thats been offended and it chips away slowly at the trust and thats something that you can get over but you never really get over it in your heart.......its always lingering and some people arent strong enough to get past that or they always wonder what they did to cause the infidelity when its never your fault............

We as people have choices....an arguement is never a sufficient reason for an extracurricular activity outside of your relationship.....if you're that unhappy you have the chioce to walk away or fall into temptation at a weak moment and use that as an excuse later........and in most cases as they say.........Once a cheat always a cheat and its just their nature.........even after 20 years of marriage there could be at a weak moment and the CHOICE is yours..........no one can be held accountable for your actions but you...........although someone else will suffer for your actions.........its just about choice and making the right decisions.........

Will you be strong?? Will it really be worth it in the end?? If so, why are you even in the situation driving you to go there?

If you're contemplating just ask yourself those questions and YOU CHOOSE.............

Answer 3

Not with me it isn't. I never have, never will, nor could I ever do that to any woman, though my ex did it to me. It certainly does seem as though perhaps as much as 60-80% of people, and not only men, but women too, feel they have to do this, and without any consideration for the other person's feelings. Granted, it is easy, after a period of time to get "stuck in a rut" in any relationship. But is that really a viable excuse to just move on. I think a lot of it is the quest for great sex that motivates people to do this. I still see no sense in it. It just creates so much pain, misery, and heartache. Isn't there way too much of that in the world already? I suppose the only benefit the other person would derive from this would be the freedom to find someone new, and hopefully better.

Answer 4

Premarital sex is at the root of the problem. Many men often do get bored because they have already "milked the cow" without having to buy it. After a while it gets old. Where is the challenge, where is the thrill of the hunt? If a guy has to wait until the knot is tied before he gets in a womans pants, he is gonna think long and hard about throwing that away. Easy come easy go. Women need to keep their legs closed and guys should stop trying to pry womens legs open as fast as they possibly can.

Answer 5

Cheaters have past problems with trust, unconditional love and others things. You can be the best worker, romancer, lover, parent,house manager, and a genius at the finaces and your spouse will cheat! It isn't about you, just him and his past that formed him. If You allow this behavior it will continue. If you say you will not put with it and he does it- walk out the door or tell him to! If you agree to take him back because you do love him, tell him the 1st time he does it-he is gone. Start saving up so you won't have financial trouble when it happens.Unless he and you go through therapy, no one will get better! Cheating is abuse and it will rip apart a marriage and your self-esteem and the kids.Start talking about it know before marriage so he will know exactly where you stand. If he is cheating now, he will cheat after the wedding unless yuo both get therapy, especially him! Best wishes!

Answer 6

no, i really do not think women get anything but hurt out fo their husbands infidelety...i know i never did.. it really hurt me and i lost trust and without trust you have nothing...i do not know why some men cheat but they do.. the saying the grass looks greener in the other pasture..i feel if a man really loves a woman he is not going to cheat... i know that some women try to seduce other woman husbands but he should stay away from women like that.. i know so many that have went out on the wives and i know a few wives that have went out on their husbands or boyfriends.. i think it is wrong..some are very sorry after words but the damage has been done.. if there marriage is strong enough and they both want to work on the problem..then they sometimes can work it out.....but i never could forget and the time apart was just to much and he liked to drink so much...i just was happy for it to be over...after 23 years of a bad abusive , adultry life..so but some men i have heard love their wives enough that they will not do this .. and those are men that are to be cherished...

Answer 7

When you look at men physiologically they should cheat. SOOOO much sperm should drive us mad. Women on the other hand only have one egg every month. You are the order in the relationship. Its a balance thing.
I know people that have been faith-full all the way and some that have cheated within a year of marriage. Its a mystery.

Who knows, in the end if you hurt the one you love, you'll have to deal with the consequences.

Answer 8

The natural tendency of women is to FLIRT --so said La Rochefoucauld during the reign of Louis XIV in France.

So women flirt with and want to hook up with the wildest PLAYER at the party, then tame him as a boyfriend and tame that as a husband. But the player is still there and eventually he will play again (becuase he can, because it proves he's still sexy, and, eventually, because it assauges his fear of death).

It's the guys that girls are bored with because they aren't good at flirting and don't have clever lines to respond -- THOSE are the men, the engineers and the technicians and the wonks and the ickky nerds without good color coordinated accessories -- that don't cheat on their girlfriends and wives.

Surprise.

It's the girls who start out flirting and looking to grab a tiger by the tail that wind up getting cheated on. In the long run, you get what you ask for.

Answer 9

I don't agree that all men cheat. I think our society permits men to cheat by making excuses for this behavior. Even going so far as to say that it is in a man's nature to cheat. I don't see how cheating can help a person be more committed, it's cheating. How can messing around benefit anyones relationship?

Women get bored with their husbands/boyfriends too but if we cheat, it is "adultery". No one makes excuses for us.

Answer 10

Cheating will not occure in every situation. But, as long as no STD's are transmitted it can be an enhancement to a couples love life. Just think of all the new moves, and tricks that your man can pick up while he's out running about.. plus, he might even treat you nicer to cover up the fact he's a cheating turd.