Ok well I'm a 14 year old girl. I think I might be bi, but I'm not sure. I have had probly two boyfriends and no girlfriends. I feel attracted to girls almost as much as to guys. For the past year i have been questioning it. I recently met someone who I found out is bi and this made me question myself more. I don't want answers like don't try and label yourself or anything like that, I need serious answers here. Thank you for your help.
2006-07-24 11:36:52 · 10 answers · asked by Sam 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
And Isabella, I wasn't planning on having sex with anyone, there was no mentioning of it anywhere in my question.
2006-07-24 14:53:52 · update #1
try it and if it feels wrong then maybe you're not bi. It's normal to be curious.
2006-07-24 11:40:15 · answer #1 · answered by Still Halloween 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
What is the question? So you think you might be bisexual... ok. It's ok to be questioning but the only person that knows the answer to the "am I bi" question is you. If you are bi, great, if you are just straight and curious, that's fine too. You do not have to have had a girlfriend yet to know if you're bisexual or not, it's something you feel. You will know if you're bi, through figureing it out or from a very young age. It's about being attracted to both girls and guys in a romatic relationship kind of way, it's about the feelings, not just sex. There is some info on coming out as bi to yourself on the Human Rights Campaign site, I'll link it.
Just be true to yourself.
http://www.hrc.org/Template.cfm?Section=Coming_Out_as_Bi&Template=/ContentManagement/ContentDisplay.cfm&ContentID=32346
2006-07-24 11:47:50 · answer #2 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree that kids your age are curious about both sexes and it's just a typical stage. They pay attention to others in a jealous way (whose best looking, dressed, etc.), but most don't have romantic or sexual feelings toward the opposite sex. I don't think you should tell yourself it's a phase b/c that minimizes it. It's obviously a big deal to you right now or you wouldn't post this. In my experience as a bi girl, girls your age that are attracted to other girls come in two types. Some have always been much more or entirely into girls and will grow up to be lesbians. (This doesn't mean they won't date boys to fit in along the way in many cases.) The other type, and I say this only because you are only 14, often had sexual abuse or sometimes just sexual playmates as children and they are more sexualized than they otherwise would be at a young age. It may be more comfortable to experiment with other girls during puberty, or they may act out abuse that happened to them (as girls) upon another girl. (It will feel like sex and not abuse, and so they are not aware that is what is happening.) So the point is you are too young, believe it or not, to have developed into a sexual being. You will have urges due to your nature or your experiences so far in life. Although I think it's unlikely for a 14 year old to go this route, my "what I wish I would have done at your age" advice is to NOT have sex for a while, and try to form deep friendships with someone you like, of either sex. Be open to a girl since you are wondering. Date, but wait for loving feelings to form, and see who you want to go further with when you are at least 16. At least!! With your raging hormones, having sex with people of either sex will not solve your sexual orientation question for you. It will just create confusion and give you patterns or habits to fall into.
2006-07-24 14:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by Isabella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I female or boys sexuality is what they elect. in the experience that they are fascinated in boys or ladies or maybe both, hos does that cause them to so diverse?!?!?! they're nevertheless people with thoughts. i'm one hundred% for adult males. even as people say stuff like are all ladies BI it annoys me because how does that result the fellow asking the question! How this helped your question!!! =)
2016-12-10 14:53:00 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids your age are curious about both sexes; who knows if it's just a "stage"; I'm not condoning anything because of your age...Just food for thought...
2006-07-24 11:39:28 · answer #5 · answered by sweet ivy lyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you keep thinking about making out with girls, you are probably into them, don't you think? before trying to decide whether you like girls or not, why not make out with one (maybe this new friend?). if it feels right and turns you on, there's your answer! simple as that!
2006-07-24 11:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by Carly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be so quick to label yourself. Just live your life, and whatever was meant to happen will. Afterall you're 14, enjoy it while you can.
2006-07-24 11:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by Danny H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not exactly sure what you are asking hun. but i would say, experiment. don't rush into trying to figure out what you want. date a girl.. mess around w/ a girl.. or a few. if it's not for you, you'll know. if it is, you'll know. don't worry about it.. it's okay either way. good luck.
2006-07-24 11:39:23 · answer #8 · answered by MnKLmT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever u r, so be it..
most important is you're healthy and strong..
2006-07-24 12:09:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are!
smileS & LOVE ALL!
Yeshua!
2006-07-24 11:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by i_am_zeus_wife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋