me and my ex split up a while ago,we have only just starting bein freinds we have kids so we see each other at least once a week,over the wekend we argued bout stuff that she is involved in,so i went,she just sent me a txt sayin she dont want to lose me as a freind as she likes it,my fear is i still love her and hate it when she gets involved whith other men,what can i do ,
2006-07-24 11:36:23 · 14 answers · asked by MARK W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
move on and be there for the kids
2006-07-24 11:41:18 · answer #1 · answered by me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to handle this is to tell her your feelings once and once only. Then step back and tell her that you are going to leave her alone to think it over. you will have to be strong and give her the space.Tell her you can't wait forever for an answer. If she wants to be with you she will come to her senses but if she decides to let you go then you have got to be the big man and walk away. Believe me I know how hard this is I have had to do this my self . If you carry on without communicating it will only eat away at you inside.Clear the air. If it really is over between you then move on.Even though you will probably feel like s**t you cannot make any one love you. There is someone out there that will love you back just as hard. I found love again and all the time it was someone right there under my nose
2006-07-24 12:14:45 · answer #2 · answered by ritaallport 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be that what you're feeling is partly a possession thing as well. I guess the best thing you can do is ruthlessly try to remember every reason you split up, and go over in your head why you thought at the time you couldn't be together, and decide whether those reasons are still decent enough reasons for you to continue being apart now. If yes, move on from her but not the kids, if no, try to win her back! Good luck!
2006-07-24 11:49:44 · answer #3 · answered by dorothy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with SCOTT G. She will only use the kids against you to get what she wants regardless of how well you get on, hence she likes it that your friends, in other words will you babysit while i go out with other men, i am sorry but i have been there with my boyfriends ex all she wanted us for was to babysit and she was involved in "stuff" too, mainly boyfriends, drugs etc know what i mean! The kids mean the world to your ex, you on the other hand, don't mean that much to her, go through legal proceedings and get access to ya kids. Good luck
2006-07-24 12:44:35 · answer #4 · answered by ball_cathie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it quite to see your ex- getting involved with other men especially when you've just splitted up. Now, try concentrating on your love life now and not her's maybe that will distruct you from knowing her men and love life. sure, she'll still be there cause you've got kids with her and you've got every right to see them as they've got the right to see you. STRAIGHTEN UP SOLDIER, you better than that. GET CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE, AND THE TIME IS NOW!!
2006-07-24 13:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by tender-boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's Hard I was on the same boat, Me and my boyfriend weren't together for about 8 months, we have 1 kid, and he started seeing this girl and i started seeing this guy but it was to hard for me to see this other guy because i stll loved my ex and now we are back to together going on 5 months now. You need to tell her how you feel, you never know she might change her mind. But if she doesn't then you need to move on i know it is hard but there is someone out there for you that will love you back!!!!! Hang in there dude!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-24 11:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by Eli_Corona_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell her how you feel
the txt message tells you she still has feelings for you
do not rush it
take it slowly
try and spend more time with your children and you ex
show her you care
how knows it might work out for the best and you get back together
good luck and keep your chin up
2006-07-28 01:59:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about her and love her, you should respect her decision...plus if you do really love her then just her being in your life is going to have to be good enough, at least she's not totally out. Even though it hurts you to see her happy...at least she's happy...and you should really let her know how you feel...
2006-07-24 12:04:08 · answer #8 · answered by Nanner♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her be and get on with your own life you can still be a dad to your kids, please for the sake of your kids be nice to there mother pay your maintance and fine a new love bro your just going round in circles otherwise
2006-07-24 12:46:35 · answer #9 · answered by xxxxxxxxxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront her and tell her how you feel, or ask her how she feels about you....You never know when it might be too late, do it before she becomes serious with another man.
2006-07-24 11:40:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be direct....ask her back, or if you thing she won't react to this....
find the most beautiful looking woman(even if you have to hire her), and make sure she sees you with her, she might rethink, and try to get you back...
2006-07-24 11:42:09 · answer #11 · answered by lavito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋