my ex and I are good friends, but his girlfriend doesn't think this makes sense - if you get along, you should try & make your marriage work (she has a terrible relationship with her ex, and believes that's the way it should be) -- anyway, she gets very pissy when my ex and I talk about our children (both of whom have special needs)-- and she gets even more upset when my ex buys things the children needs -- she goes through his receipts (!) to see what he has purchased -- she thinks the child support should cover the expenses (I receive $450.00 a month for 2 children, most of which goes to medication and doctor visits) --anyway, I knew her from my former workplace -- she and my ex had an affair before we divorced -- he said it was because I became bipolar and he "no longer had a wife" -- I'm doing well now, and I really like this lady -- should I just say, "hell with it", and let her get upset if she wants to?
2006-07-24 11:35:14 · 8 answers · asked by Honeybee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think she is selfish and afraid maybe because she knows what a cheater he is since he cheated with her on you. anyway he needs to communicate with you for the children's sake and she needs to grow the hell up, Also he not only needs to communicate with you but he needs to do it with a smile on his face, she has no right to deny him or you or the children, hell with her I say oh and he probably made a mistake when he cheated on you, maybe you can forgive him and reunite who knows what the future holds;
2006-07-24 11:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
She shouldn't be involved in expenses or decisions that involve the children. You have every right to discuss the children with him, especially since they have medical needs. The childrens father should be able to buy the kids whatever he wants. Sounds like she has a serious jealousy and trust issue. I don't believe that you will be able to keep her from being upset, that is something he will have to deal with. Hopefully it will not affect how he interacts with his children.
2006-07-24 11:45:48 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes...tell her to get over her jealousy of the fact that you & your ex are connected forever thru your children. Then tell her she can either decide to be an adult and make an effort to get along for the sake of the kids, or she can continue to act like a child and you will just act as if she does not excist. And then follow thru..but most of all..don't let her get to you. Hold your head higher than her.
2006-07-24 12:17:00 · answer #3 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it truly is time to consider a restraining order. Stalking someone no matter if telephone harassment or exhibiting up someplace and performing out isn't criminal. neither is it secure for some counting on the challenge. you may replace your huge variety and function it set as inner most with the phone employer, yet i'd heavily have a restraining order filed antagonistic to her. If she is provided in for your artwork, call the police. That starts a paper path and may want for use later antagonistic to her if want be. record, record, record and keep each and every thing you create. word dates, names, cases, occurrances, each and every thing. i have lengthy gone by ability of this myself with my contemporary courting and his ex female friend. She changed into the very similar way. I filed a No Trespassing Order antagonistic to her. She can not call, take position etc..or she is going to penal complicated. era.
2016-11-25 22:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems insincere, I wouldn't worry about it. But I wouldn't let her jelious nature stand in the way of what the kid's need. If it is just friends between you and your ex, then let her deal with it. I am still friends with my ex and his wife and child. He and I have two children together and to me they come first. Anyway , you have control over your feelings and not hers. If she can't deal with it then that's her problem. She knew you two had kids together when she slept with him and that didn't stop her.
2006-07-24 11:48:35 · answer #5 · answered by sassy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Retain your dignity and ignore her. You shouldn't be fixing her insecurities and problems--your ex should be doing that for her. If for anything, she shouldn't be talking to you, or bringing you any of her problems. The only relationship you need to keep is between you and your ex for the sake of your kids. That's your business and his business, and if she has a problem with that, she should be discussing them with your ex, she has no right nagging at you or bad mouthing you.
2006-07-24 11:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were there first you have history with him and she needs to stay the f*** out of it.
2006-07-24 11:41:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to kiss ur ***!!!! HER OFF... Put ur childrens needs first....
2006-07-24 11:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋