2006-07-24 11:25:55 · 26 answers · asked by angeleyes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It is her choice. You can only provide information but there is no garantee she'll listen to it.
2006-07-24 11:33:46 · answer #1 · answered by annie22222 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Social diseases are rampant. Do a best friend talk telling her your worried that something can happen to her. Make sure you have your facts and figures right when you do. Read up on herpes, genital warts, etc.She will never stop just because you say she should, she needs to get some self respect for herself first. Hopping in and out of sexual relationships means she has a mental problem about herself. Low self esteem, peer pressure, a feeling of being unloved and looking for it in the wrong places. For sex to be meaningful there has to be a relationship between the two people or else it is just sex and not lovemaking.Don't condemn her for what she is doing, but explain why you feel it is wrong, using yourself as the role model. You don't say how old your friend is. Most young people are not ready for the responsibilities of having sex. All they think of is the physical side of it, forgetting the mental and emotional aspects of it let alone the possibility of pregnancy. The reality of having to raise a child is much different than the wonderful imaginations that we have.
2006-07-24 11:41:55 · answer #2 · answered by Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is happy with her life the way it is, then leave her be. Maybe she's not ready to commit to one person just as yet, and as long as she is not hurting anyone, why should it matter. Just tell her that you care about her, and that you're happy for her as long as she is happy, and make sure that she's using protection.
Yes, people always label women who sleep around as 'sluts', but if your friend does not care about what other people think of her behaviour, why should you? I'm sure the reasons why the 2 of you are friends far outweigh her sexual lifestyle/behaviour.
One of my best friends is like that, but considering that we've been friends for 8 years now, I'm willing to tolerate that behaviour. Yes it's annoying that when we do go out clubbing, her agenda is to meet men, but I have a choice of not going out with her.
I also know for a fact that she has bipolar disorder and excessive sexual behaviour is a symptom, and she has commitment issues as a result of a very unhealthy on-again/off-again relationship (that fortunately ended for good a couple of years ago).
Of course I do hope that she will meet someone nice and settle down eventually, but ultimately it is her life, and she is old enough to know what she is doing - besides, I'm not perfect, I have my flaws, and I'm grateful that I have friends that love me inspite of my imperfections.
If her sleeping around bothers you that much, no one is forcing you to be her friend.
2006-07-24 11:46:24 · answer #3 · answered by gipsy_queen99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down? If you are her friend you will care what she's is making herself. You will tell her to stop, and then both of you find a good youth group that will help you both stop having sex before you're married.
HAVING SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE IS WRONG. Plain and simple. You can't make it right by stamping you feet, screaming, yelling, and getting angry at the person who tells you it's wrong. It will still be wrong!!!
2006-07-24 11:29:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that depends on why you care if she sleeps around, if you are worried about her health then tell her so, if you think she looks bad and is degrading herself then tell her that. you don't have to be hateful about it. just say look girlfriend cool it ya know theres some pretty mean diseases out there and I love ya and don't want you to get hurt, if its a guy say the same except don't call him girlfriend
2006-07-24 11:31:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You av to sit her down and talk to her.Let her know dat it's bcos of da love you have for her as a friend is the reason why you're telling her.
Tell her you'll love her to change her ways.
2006-07-24 11:30:53 · answer #6 · answered by Deejay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If shes 18 years old or older. Send her to me. Ha ha just a joke.
Show her pictures of vd. That always freaks people out.
2006-07-24 11:29:06 · answer #7 · answered by willberb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let her know that there are some many things out there that could hurt her. you are just telling her because you care about her and you don't want to see her get hurt. if she is not ready to be a mother, she needs to take precautions and if she doesn't want any stds then she needs to think about that as well. good luck.
2006-07-24 11:29:29 · answer #8 · answered by ghostly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say hey i think u should slow down with guys ur giving ur self a rep that i dont want for u take ur time and know that im tellin u this because i luv u
2006-07-24 11:29:17 · answer #9 · answered by denise b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really....I'm sure you care for her and just don't want to see her get anything or get hurt....but the best thing to ease your mind is to just playful ask her 'you are protected right?' and if she says no then you should turn serious and state your worried not judgemental....If she says yes then don't worry.
2006-07-24 11:30:26 · answer #10 · answered by ** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you shoul let her bring up the subject then just tell her you are my best freind and i realy dont want to hurt you but i think you should slow down on all the people you are messing with i realy dont want any one to get hurt
2006-07-24 11:31:10 · answer #11 · answered by tigger_girl_klm06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋