OK I have posted questions before about the issue...My boyfriend wanted to see what else was out there. We have been together for 4 1/2 years since we were 16, now 21. Recently I decided to NOT give up on my relationship with my ex, and instead told him that he had 2 months to do whatever he wanted to with no questions by me and on the first day of Sept. he had to decide if he wanted to continue to be single or stay with me....So since i told him this he has been treating me 10 times better than he has in the past year as well as making plans for us to do things, taking me out, being very affectionate etc.. I asked him if he is taking my offer and he said YES and to not worry. . So my question is what do u think about this???
2006-07-24 11:21:42 · 19 answers · asked by sweetchic117 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
OK let me say a lil more because the responses that I have been getting are a little off....We Have been together for 4 1/2 years I went away for school 2 of the four years...during that time we had an open realtionship and tested the waters then. I have been on dates with other men and I do believe that I am to be with my boyfriend. I don't think that he doesn't love me its just that we are young and people are in his ear saying things to him to make him think he needs to be single. Also I want to say that because we have been together since we were 16 does not mean that we are not in love, the reason for me making that decision to allow him to do what he wants is because I do love him, I would like to say that anything is possible and yes i believe that i can find my soul-mate at any age. I don't regret anything I do in my life....because tomorrow is not promised. Of all forms of cautions in life, caution in love is the most fatal to true happiness.
2006-07-24 11:24:55 · update #1
Most guys get nicer when they are cheating, because they feel guilty.
2006-07-24 11:25:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just asking... no begging for trouble. If you allow someone to step out on you, regardless of the agreement or situation, they slowly lose respect for you and your feelings. You're never going to know what his true feelings are because you have forced him to play games with you. I'm sorry, but I think the end is near for this relationship. Most guys tend to cover their tracks by showering their women with affection to make it seem incoceivable that they would ever look at someone else. Don't clown yourself.
2006-07-24 11:35:03 · answer #2 · answered by Manny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he figured out that you were 'the one'. I imagine he'd have the need to play the field for a bit, since, given your age, he (nor you) never had the chance. BTW... I hope you spent a little time seeing what else was out there (if not, get this over with before making a serious commitment).
2006-07-24 11:27:09 · answer #3 · answered by Reddigo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First this is very risky business... after he's out doing 'whatever' is he coming home to you??? I certainly hope that you plan includes 2 months of celibacy between you two, and then tests for STD's after that.
You better be sure of this plan of yours and be able to keep the promise you made to have no questions.
Also.... whats to say he isn't playing you til Sept 1st??? then will dump you....
Risky way to play it... Another thought... what if you ever want this same two month respite? Do you think he'd be willing to let you play???
Doubt it!
2006-07-24 11:31:35 · answer #4 · answered by DrVodka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he was just feeling a little pressured. With you giving him a "time out" you are letting him court you again, without feeling like he NEEDS to be nice to you all the time. As you both grow and mature I'm sure you will have a great relationship together for a long, long time.
2006-07-24 11:28:33 · answer #5 · answered by Reverand Ray 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wonderful for allowing him some freedom. Will he change for the better---but probably only temporarily. Was it a bad choice--NO! He would have eventually explored on his own and the relationship would have ended. By you giving him some "room" there still may be a chance of keeping the relationship together.
2006-07-24 11:28:26 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Battery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 04:08:04 · answer #7 · answered by windy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so I guess that he really does not want to see what else is out there due to the fact that you gave him that option. He probably thinks that you will do the same and find someone else. It seems like he does not want to lose you. If he really wanted to see other girls, he would have. He is probably surprised that you even suggested that and that's why he is treating you better.
2006-07-24 11:32:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're out of your mind... if you expect to have a long standing relationship you can never allow a "no questions asked" period of time. It will open the option for the duration of the relationship.
2006-07-24 11:27:47 · answer #9 · answered by Valient25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither of you have had enough time yet. He's recomitted because you've forced him to. And he's acting like he wants to because he knows that will work out for the best for him.
2006-07-24 11:25:52 · answer #10 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a jerk, my husband tried pulling the same thing, just saying that im not attractive enough for him so i left for a week( to moms!) and when i got back i said you pull this crap again, thats it. one and only chance why should i hurt again? and plus ive started talking back to him not bad but just so he knows im serious and i can take of myself, he treats me like a queen! good luck!
2006-07-24 11:27:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋