am i too young to get married?

Question

I AM 20 YEARS OLD AND HAVE BEEN WITH MY BOYFRIEND FOR 3 YEARS

Answer 1

That's is really up to you. You should follow your instincts. I got married at 22 and a lot of people told me that I was too young. Too young for what? If you're able to truly love someone and understand that marriage is a life-long commitment, then you're not too young. It's been a year and a half, and marrying my husband was the very best decision that I have ever made!

Answer 2

You are definitely not too young to get married. My mother got married when she was 18 and my parents are still married! I'm also 20, and entertaining the idea of marriage. From another one of your questions, though if you're interested in marriage, I wouldn't recommend your current boyfriend, especially if he's insisting on doing that with you, regardless of whether or not you're afraid (and told him that!). I would make a point to try finding someone else. I understand how hard that will be, as you've been going out with him for so long, and that there is a little 5 month old baby in the picture, but you do NOT want a husband who might mistreat you
G-D forbid! Please try to make the right choice! You'll be a lot happier in the long run, if you do!

Answer 3

I don't think your too young to get married. I got married when I was 22. We had 13 wonderful years together. And we had only known each other for 9 months. I don't think age has anything to do with when you get married. I think it's about how you feel about each other and your willingness to take it to the next level. I have friends that got married at 18 and they're still happily married. Just remember this though. When you do get married, your taking each other for better or worse. There will be some rough times, but you will get through those. It's things like the rough times that make your marriage stronger. And please, don't run at the first sign of trouble. A marriage takes a lot of work. Your combining two different people with two different opinions. So, it's a learning experience and a growing experience. I wish you well.

Answer 4

There are, unfortunately, no manuals telling anyone whether they are ready or not for marriage. I don't think age has anything to do with whether anyone is ready for marriage but rather their state of mind. But I strongly feel that your boyfriend and you need to sit down together and discuss the following questions. And you have to be truly honest with each other because if the other person cannot accept what it is you are saying then maybe they are not the one for you. I've learned the hard way that if there is ANY doubt, even the slightest bit, you shouldn't do it.

1. Is there anything about me that annoys you? And if there are can you live with them? Little annoyances can grow to be big ones.

2. Are you both going to school or working? If both of you are in school, wait. If one of you is in schools and the other is OK with supporting the other, I'd still wait. If both of you are working and you can support yourselves without help from the parental units or excessive use of credit cards, go for it.

3. What kind of spending habits will we have? If you both agree to be financially responsble (that is budget, pay bills on time, pay off credit card bills at the end of the month), then go for it but if either one of you spends money like it's going out of style or hides bills or items they have purchased, call it off.

4. How many children do you want? If you disagree on the number, wait.

5. Will one of you stay home after the kids are born? If you disagree on this, wait until you can afford a nanny.

6. Are we getting married because everyone else around us is doing it? If the answer is "yes", definitely wait.

7. And most importantly, do we really want to spend the rest of our lives together? If you see the relationship as a means of passing time, then call it off. But if you see the relationship as the means of an adventure with which to explore the world and sharing these experiences, then go for it.

I hope this helps and good luck!

Answer 5

Here is a little advice for you. I am 26 years old and was married at 24. I am currently going through a divorce because the man that I married turned out to be a lier. The sad thing was we met when we were in high school and were best of friends before we got together. We lived together for 2 years before we were married, and I thought I knew everything there was to know about him. Two months after we were married he made a huge mistake and lied to me about it for two weeks before he was caught by the police. Then he had to tell me the truth because he had been caught. I tried to forgive him, but was unable to and have recently found out that he has lied to me about numerous other things. I am not saying that your boyfriend is a lier or anything. I am just letting you know that marriage is a lifetime commitment and you need to be completely sure about it before you do it. You are young and have a lot to look forward to. You shoud not be rushed to get married, have fun together. You both will grow in the next few years not only as a couple, but as individuals. Good luck =)

Answer 6

I am 18 years old and have been married for almost 2 years. It was the best decision I could have made. I believe that there is no right or wrong age to get married. If you know that you love the person, and you feel very strongly about it, i think you should. You guys have been together long enough to know what you want. I also think that it depends on the maturity level of the persons involved. If you are mature, responsible, honest and understanding, i think that means you're ready. if your relationship has been steady for 3 years and you're still going strong, id say go for it girl...ALWAYS follow your heart!!! Good luck to you doll!!

Answer 7

That's up to you. The fact that you're asking makes me think maybe you're not quite yet ready to settle down. You've been with the same guy since you were 17. If you feel the itch to explore, get out there because you're only young once and in your 20's, you grow and change so very much. If this relationship is meant to be, it will be even if you take your time. It's better to proceed with caution. Make sure you know what's right in your heart for you before you decide on getting married now. Good luck!

Answer 8

krystel, no your not to young legally. emotionally you stand a better chance of your marriage working if you wait another seven years. for some people , impatience is to hard and they do it anyhow. your old enough to go anywhere and do anything save up for a trip to st thomas or fly to france . once your married although you say you can still do it but you two will be in a situation where bills are hitting you and you are tied to work more then you want. shortly after marriage most couples think about children. and all chances of being carefree and doing things on a whim. unfortunately just like i was, you see limitations to what i am saying. but in retrospect when you do have kids and 15 years from now youll being saying to your kids wait till your 27 anjoy what youth has to offer and explore the world. i hope you decide to be adventurist and explore its the one thing i know i didnt get a chance to when i knew i could. good luck

Answer 9

i got married at 20 we have had our ups and downs but we love each other. We have a wonderful marriage going on 7 years now

Answer 10

If you are very happy and are certain that you can make it through turning 21 and being married go for it. I got married at 21 and have been married for a year now and things are still going great.