how can i get my 4year old boy to sleep in his own bed at night???? help me!
2006-07-24 11:16:33 · 8 answers · asked by Jill h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Have you tried duck tape? Seriously tho, do mean he won't fall asleep at all in his own bed, or is he waking in the middle of the night and going to your bed then?
The key is to not give into their crying and tantrums. Once they figure out the secret to getting their way, they will do that every single time. you have to let them know (by doing not saying) that you are the adult and you are going to win.
DO NOT EVER make threats that you have no intention of caring out.
DO NOT EVER make threat after threat after threat of what you will do, and then never do it!!!!
Just don't make threats!!! Whatever punishment you are going to do, just frickin do it!!
Misbehavior = Consequences EVERY SINGLE TIME. NOT sometimes, NOT once in a while, NOT most of the time.....EVERY SINGLE TIME...
2006-07-24 11:24:14 · answer #1 · answered by Manny 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First - consitant bedtime routines - this includes letting him know what time bedtime is. At 4, 8:00 is a good bedtime (both for the child and the parents). Show him what 8:00 looks like on the clock - this will help him anticipate when he goes back.
Next - have a bedtime routine, brush teeth, have a bath if it doesn't hype him up, get in pajamas, read two books to him (or one longer one), turn on music for him (quiet music) and then dim the lights and say good night.
If he gets out of bed, gently walk him back to his room, put him back in bed and say goodnight again, tuck him in and leave,
Keep repeating (this can take two or three nights of walking him back to his room over and over) - keep you patience - not easy, but neccessary. Keep up the routine, within no time you will be amazed at how easily he goes back to bed and goes to sleep in his own room.
Also, make sure he has his own special blankie and special stuffed animal - this helps.
Another thing that can help - is take him to the store and let him pick out a special set of sheets to sleep in.
Good luck - it is hard - but it can be done. My kids are now 8 and 4 1/2 and they go back to bed every night without issues.
2006-07-24 11:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by socaljules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will probably be lengthy. The process has to start with him getting used to falling asleep in his bed at all times. Then gradually after sitting with him to fall asleep in his own bed. Move further and further away from him while he is going to sleep. You may have to put him back in his bed a few times before he gets used to going to sleep in his own bed. This is a proven method used by many psychologist and family therapist. Be strong.
2006-07-24 11:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my 2yr old is doing the same thing..its frustrating getting up 3-4 times a night to put him back in his "big boy bed" I've tryed leaving the TV on for him..letting him sleep on the couch..being firm w/ him..but i let him do it a few times when i was lonely so i don't know how to break him of it without being mean..i also feel bad because what if he is having bad dreams and just needs to be comforted? what if its just a stage?
2006-07-24 11:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by SHONI L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lie down on his bed with him until he falls asleep and go to your own be then. And if hes too restless give him something warm. Like Warm milk with honey. Works all the time.
2006-07-24 11:20:45 · answer #5 · answered by 1m@ h3@rT Br3@k3r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is only one way to do it....... make him. you will have to put up maybe with his whining and he may not even sleep well at first but stick firm to your choice and dont give him any slack. he cant allways be your baby he is a man under devlopment and as a parent you have to make choices that are for the best for your child. give him some time he will get accustomed to sleeping by himself.
2006-07-24 11:23:07 · answer #6 · answered by DUSTY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have an 18 month old baby gurl and this is what i tried and it worked for me and my baby.......you put him to his own bed at night put a lil nightlight that gives the room a lil light seat next to his bed and dont say anything ignore his cries his juz doin it to get you to stand up and give up tryin.......if he tries to get up and off his bed put him back to his bed and tuck him in and go back to your position seat right next to his bed...................and with a little effort and patience you'll see a result in a week
2006-07-24 11:22:35 · answer #7 · answered by prety in pink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till he falls asleep then carry him into his own bed thats what i do when i babysit...works everytime
2006-07-24 11:20:05 · answer #8 · answered by just meee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋